Comments on: Corrections of Misconceptions http://hyusof.com/?p=4 Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:59:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Ismail http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1247 Ismail Wed, 23 Jul 2008 04:37:55 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1247 Saya memohon maaf kerana mengatakan yang bukan-bukan mengenai puan. Tapi selepas membaca blog ini, saya rasa mengganggap Puan adalah wanita yang sangat hebat. Sebab itulah Allah menguji Puan dengan hal yang sangat hebat. Maka saya memohon kepada Allah Yang Maha Hebat agar Puan bahagia di dunia dan akhirat. Sufiah tetap saya kasih. Wajahnya dari kecil hingga dewasa saling tak tumpah seperti anak jiran saya yang tinggi budi pekertinya. Semoga Allah kembalikannya kepada Puan setelah dia bertaubat. Dan terimalah dia nanti sebagai hadiah yang sangat mulia. Saya memohon maaf kerana mengatakan yang bukan-bukan mengenai puan. Tapi selepas membaca blog ini, saya rasa mengganggap Puan adalah wanita yang sangat hebat. Sebab itulah Allah menguji Puan dengan hal yang sangat hebat. Maka saya memohon kepada Allah Yang Maha Hebat agar Puan bahagia di dunia dan akhirat. Sufiah tetap saya kasih. Wajahnya dari kecil hingga dewasa saling tak tumpah seperti anak jiran saya yang tinggi budi pekertinya. Semoga Allah kembalikannya kepada Puan setelah dia bertaubat. Dan terimalah dia nanti sebagai hadiah yang sangat mulia.

]]> By: mohd azmi wagiran http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1208 mohd azmi wagiran Mon, 23 Jun 2008 15:17:41 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1208 just a girl... that a long story...thank god u'r still remember...to turn back to the right path... i agree with u... dear isk, as i mention before this...isk, ika, abraham..aisha...i think y'all must do something .....try to catch soo-fi..but without break the law...i agree with just a girl... find her and try to talk to her... now the goverment of malaysia is giving the mandate to the melayu.uk... that's mean the people of malaysia still want soo-fi back.... may Allah bless y'all... ....still rememer soo-fi...with black baju kurung...10 year ago.... best regard, Azmi just a girl…

that a long story…thank god u’r still remember…to turn back to the right path…

i agree with u…

dear isk,

as i mention before this…isk, ika, abraham..aisha…i think y’all must do something …..try to catch soo-fi..but without break the law…i agree with just a girl…
find her and try to talk to her…

now the goverment of malaysia is giving the mandate to the melayu.uk…
that’s mean the people of malaysia still want soo-fi back….
may Allah bless y’all…

….still rememer soo-fi…with black baju kurung…10 year ago….

best regard,
Azmi

]]> By: oh, my… « *~e L L e b e L L e~* http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1191 oh, my… « *~e L L e b e L L e~* Fri, 06 Jun 2008 09:08:13 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1191 [...] being  single mother coping with the current situation.. I came across her family’s blog, Yusof Family’s Official Blog and it was interesting to know what actually took place… I really recommend u guys to read [...] […] being  single mother coping with the current situation.. I came across her family’s blog, Yusof Family’s Official Blog and it was interesting to know what actually took place… I really recommend u guys to read […]

]]> By: Just a Girl http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1185 Just a Girl Tue, 03 Jun 2008 21:48:37 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1185 I've read all of the comments written here and what I noticed is most of them are from mothers trying to relate to pn. Halimaton's situation. But I thought I would give one from a daughter's point of view, because I'm sorry to say, I can empathize a bit with what Sufiah is going through. I am a 22 year old girl currently studying in university and the last 4 years of my life have been very rocky due to psychological and emotional baggage I carried from my childhood and teenage years. Basically I had trouble with my father and blamed him and my mom also for causing me distress. I felt like I wasn't living up to their expectations academically, and often felt neglected. I 'ran away' for three or four days sleeping around with some boys while my family frantically put out a search for me. I felt guilty when I found out they were looking, but that only made me feel more ashamed to go home because I couldn't bear to look at them. I called my mom and told her I didn't want to go home, even though I really wanted to but was just scared. She said its ok, and she's just grateful I'm alive but she asked me to come home the next day. So the next day I went back home and was overcome when I saw my whole family including uncles and aunts weeping for me. I said I wouldn't do it again and I took some time off from school to work out issues in my head, but I just felt more confused inside and I didn't know why I felt so lost. I prayed every day. But I just felt suddenly angry at my parents for 'overreacting' to the situation and informing everyone in the extended family, and even my friends. Since then they became more sheltered of me I sometimes feel like I'm on parole. They get suspicious when I want to go out, even to meet a friend casually. So I started to get into the habit of sneaking out behind their backs again, and going out and sleeping around. I was addicted to it. I convinced myself thats what I wanted and that was an acceptable thing for me. But in part I think I was just rebelling against my parents, by showing them that even though they try to control me they don't even know what I'm doing out of their sight. At the same time I didn't want them to find out because I didn't want to hurt them. If my mom asked if everything was fine, I would just say yes. But then along the way something happened. I started to feel dirty and couldn't even recognize myself. I stopped blaming my parents for my problems and saw it was a problem within myself. I was always an intelligent girl (not a genius like your children lol but maintaining a 3.5GPA). But because of my social and emotional state of mind, my grades started falling. I felt so confused and lost, but I know I have to change. I tried to pray again. The thing is, despite everything, I have never stopped believing in God. My faith in him never faltered. In fact I started to feel like the life I was leading was a sort of punishment from him. I turned my back on that life I led, and went to my parents. I reflect on how they took care of me and cried when I was gone. And my mom who forgave me over and over for all the things I did to hurt her. She even forgave me when she found out I was sleeping with a boy, even though I could see her heart break. I'm sorry but this is the state of today's children. I know a lot of peers who lead such lives as well. We're all just confused, and whatever rebellion we use as an excuse for our actions, in the end that disguise will fall away and what will be left is a scared, confused girl/boy trying to find their self and the answer to their life and their problems. We want to feel like we're in control of our own lives, but at the same time we are still vulnerable and need a place to hide. I haven't quite figured myself out yet, even though I say I don't want to do those things anymore. I just need to know that my family will be there if I need them, and the rest I will just have to find out on my own. I am slowly finding my way, inshaAllah. I think Sufiah is also going through something like that, she's just in the state of denial or something, convincing herself that she is happy in her current situation, but if she has at least an ounce of faith or belief in God, then I trust that eventually she will find her way. It doesn't seem like she's blaming anyone now, not even her father, maybe she just doesn't feel ready to come back or is even a bit ashamed inside (especially now with all the media coverage), but just remind her that you're there for her. Her siblings especially, her brother, maybe you were close to her. I agree with the people who say try to reach her, anyway, and just try to talk to her. Maybe if she's not ready to connect with her mother it would be easier for her to talk to you. I know my brother helped a lot in my situation by just trying to reach out to me as a peer and communicating on a level I could relate to. But the thing is not to force it or else it might just make her resentful. It needs to be something she realizes on her own, but with people who love her providing a sort of safety-net, to catch her when she finally lands. Another thing, is Sufiah the type to have many friends? Because it seems that she was a sort of loner apart from her siblings, and only seems to want to connect with men on a sexual level without any emotions. but I could dig up a bunch of theories of whats going on in her head and never really know. Maybe it would be easier to form a sort of intervention if she had more regular friends, girls her age. I just thought I'd give my point of view seeing that Sufiyah is only 1-2 years difference than me.thanks and god bless all of you :) I’ve read all of the comments written here and what I noticed is most of them are from mothers trying to relate to pn. Halimaton’s situation. But I thought I would give one from a daughter’s point of view, because I’m sorry to say, I can empathize a bit with what Sufiah is going through.
I am a 22 year old girl currently studying in university and the last 4 years of my life have been very rocky due to psychological and emotional baggage I carried from my childhood and teenage years. Basically I had trouble with my father and blamed him and my mom also for causing me distress. I felt like I wasn’t living up to their expectations academically, and often felt neglected.
I ‘ran away’ for three or four days sleeping around with some boys while my family frantically put out a search for me. I felt guilty when I found out they were looking, but that only made me feel more ashamed to go home because I couldn’t bear to look at them. I called my mom and told her I didn’t want to go home, even though I really wanted to but was just scared. She said its ok, and she’s just grateful I’m alive but she asked me to come home the next day. So the next day I went back home and was overcome when I saw my whole family including uncles and aunts weeping for me. I said I wouldn’t do it again and I took some time off from school to work out issues in my head, but I just felt more confused inside and I didn’t know why I felt so lost. I prayed every day. But I just felt suddenly angry at my parents for ‘overreacting’ to the situation and informing everyone in the extended family, and even my friends. Since then they became more sheltered of me I sometimes feel like I’m on parole. They get suspicious when I want to go out, even to meet a friend casually. So I started to get into the habit of sneaking out behind their backs again, and going out and sleeping around. I was addicted to it. I convinced myself thats what I wanted and that was an acceptable thing for me. But in part I think I was just rebelling against my parents, by showing them that even though they try to control me they don’t even know what I’m doing out of their sight. At the same time I didn’t want them to find out because I didn’t want to hurt them. If my mom asked if everything was fine, I would just say yes.
But then along the way something happened. I started to feel dirty and couldn’t even recognize myself. I stopped blaming my parents for my problems and saw it was a problem within myself. I was always an intelligent girl (not a genius like your children lol but maintaining a 3.5GPA). But because of my social and emotional state of mind, my grades started falling. I felt so confused and lost, but I know I have to change. I tried to pray again. The thing is, despite everything, I have never stopped believing in God. My faith in him never faltered. In fact I started to feel like the life I was leading was a sort of punishment from him.
I turned my back on that life I led, and went to my parents. I reflect on how they took care of me and cried when I was gone. And my mom who forgave me over and over for all the things I did to hurt her. She even forgave me when she found out I was sleeping with a boy, even though I could see her heart break.
I’m sorry but this is the state of today’s children. I know a lot of peers who lead such lives as well. We’re all just confused, and whatever rebellion we use as an excuse for our actions, in the end that disguise will fall away and what will be left is a scared, confused girl/boy trying to find their self and the answer to their life and their problems. We want to feel like we’re in control of our own lives, but at the same time we are still vulnerable and need a place to hide.
I haven’t quite figured myself out yet, even though I say I don’t want to do those things anymore. I just need to know that my family will be there if I need them, and the rest I will just have to find out on my own. I am slowly finding my way, inshaAllah.
I think Sufiah is also going through something like that, she’s just in the state of denial or something, convincing herself that she is happy in her current situation, but if she has at least an ounce of faith or belief in God, then I trust that eventually she will find her way. It doesn’t seem like she’s blaming anyone now, not even her father, maybe she just doesn’t feel ready to come back or is even a bit ashamed inside (especially now with all the media coverage), but just remind her that you’re there for her. Her siblings especially, her brother, maybe you were close to her. I agree with the people who say try to reach her, anyway, and just try to talk to her. Maybe if she’s not ready to connect with her mother it would be easier for her to talk to you. I know my brother helped a lot in my situation by just trying to reach out to me as a peer and communicating on a level I could relate to. But the thing is not to force it or else it might just make her resentful. It needs to be something she realizes on her own, but with people who love her providing a sort of safety-net, to catch her when she finally lands.
Another thing, is Sufiah the type to have many friends? Because it seems that she was a sort of loner apart from her siblings, and only seems to want to connect with men on a sexual level without any emotions. but I could dig up a bunch of theories of whats going on in her head and never really know. Maybe it would be easier to form a sort of intervention if she had more regular friends, girls her age.
I just thought I’d give my point of view seeing that Sufiyah is only 1-2 years difference than me.thanks and god bless all of you :)

]]> By: Md Hilmi Abdullah http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1122 Md Hilmi Abdullah Tue, 20 May 2008 15:32:56 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1122 Assalamualaikum Puan Hamilton, You said most of the news in the mainstream press regarding Yusof family and Sufiah's childhood is inaccurate. I do agree with you. Accuracy is prime quality. As one said the most dangerous untruth is the truth moderately distorted. Whether the distortions occur ("done?") delibrately or not, this is not the main issue. The onus is on you to give the accurate versions. Because you have more access to Sufiah, compared to prime media reporters surely any sound minded people will believe in you rather than prime media reporters. I believe Sufiah has her own reason for doing so. To know accurately the reason is impossible only Sufiah and Allah SWT know. Whatever reason we give.It is just a guess. I think the emptiness of her soul that makes her choose the way of life as it is. It is unfortunate, it is beyond your control. And it is beyond your control to save your marriage, so did I. I'm worried my daughter will spoil but I will accept it as a fate, after which I sacrified everything I can. Others should learn a lesson from Sufiah's tragedy. As a reminder for everyone of human kind, including me. Don't add salt to injury. My deepest feeling of love to everyone of your family. Salam suksess. Regards. I wish you will never give up. I think you should live by the reflection of thought: "When no one stands by me, I need to make sure that I stand by the truth". Assalamualaikum Puan Hamilton,
You said most of the news in the mainstream press regarding Yusof family and Sufiah’s childhood is inaccurate. I do agree with you. Accuracy is prime quality.
As one said the most dangerous untruth is the truth moderately distorted. Whether the distortions occur (”done?”) delibrately or not, this is not the main issue. The onus is on you to give the accurate versions. Because you have more access to Sufiah, compared to prime media reporters surely any sound minded people will believe in you rather than prime media reporters.
I believe Sufiah has her own reason for doing so. To know accurately the reason is impossible only Sufiah and Allah SWT know. Whatever reason we give.It is just a guess. I think the emptiness of her soul that makes her choose the way of life as it is. It is unfortunate, it is beyond your control. And it is beyond your control to save your marriage, so did I. I’m worried my daughter will spoil but I will accept it as a fate, after which I sacrified everything I can. Others should learn a lesson from Sufiah’s tragedy. As a reminder for everyone of human kind, including me. Don’t add salt to injury. My deepest feeling of love to everyone of your family. Salam suksess. Regards.
I wish you will never give up. I think you should live by the reflection of thought: “When no one stands by me, I need to make sure that I stand by the truth”.

]]> By: matpetir http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1044 matpetir Mon, 05 May 2008 06:56:08 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1044 Salam buat Kak Halimahton sekeluarga. Secara peribadi saya turut merasa simpati dan sedih di atas apa yg berlaku pada Sufiah sememangnya ia merupakan sesuatu yang sangat tidak terduga akan berlaku. Disini saya mengharapkan Kak Halimahton Sekeluarga akan terus tabah didalam menghadapinya dan teruskan usaha untuk mengembalikan Sufiah kepangkal jalan. Saya secara peribadi merasa amat teruja untuk tahu apakah perkembangan terkini yang boleh dikongsi bersama.Beberapa persoalan juga timbul di dalam pemikiran saya bagaimana pergolakkan yang berlaku di dalam keluarga Kak Halimahton. Bagaimana sikap bapanya, adek beradeknya dan Kak sendiri terhadap Sufiah. Dari cerita-cerita yang dipaparkan saya merasa dia bagaikan dahagakan kasih sayang dan perhatian yang sewajarnya. Kenapa saya berkata demikian?…….. Dia inginkan sesuatu yang boleh mententeramkan jiwanya sebab itu dia memilih untuk berkahwin diusia yang begitu muda (19) tetapi malangnya dia gagal juga. Saya merasa terharu juga membaca berita yang menyatakan bahawa tidak ada seorangpun ahli keluarganya yang hadir dan majlis perkahwinan tersebut berlansung dengan begitu serdahana sekali. Keadaan ini tentunya mengecewakan. Mungkin banyak lagi peristiwa-peristiwa lain yang membuatkan Sufiah merasa keciwa dengan ahli keluarganya yang menyebabkan dia sudah hilang kepercayaan dan tidak mengharapkan apa apa lagi. Saya harap Kak Halimahton tidak keberatan untuk bercerita akan keadaan sebenar yang berlaku sehingga boleh menyebabkan Sufiah mengambil tindakkan yang sangat tragis ini. Buat Iskander berusahalah untuk mencari Sufiah dengan menggunakan segala kebijaksanaan yang anda miliki jangan hanya berserah kepada undang-undang sehinggakan tidak mampu untuk mencari jalan keluarnya dari kemelut ynag sedang berlaku. SEMOGA BERJAYA …INSYAALLAH AMIN. Salam buat Kak Halimahton sekeluarga. Secara peribadi saya turut merasa simpati dan sedih di atas apa yg berlaku pada Sufiah sememangnya ia merupakan sesuatu yang sangat tidak terduga akan berlaku. Disini saya mengharapkan Kak Halimahton Sekeluarga akan terus tabah didalam menghadapinya dan teruskan usaha untuk mengembalikan Sufiah kepangkal jalan.

Saya secara peribadi merasa amat teruja untuk tahu apakah perkembangan terkini yang boleh dikongsi bersama.Beberapa persoalan juga timbul di dalam pemikiran saya bagaimana pergolakkan yang berlaku di dalam keluarga Kak Halimahton. Bagaimana sikap bapanya, adek beradeknya dan Kak sendiri terhadap Sufiah.

Dari cerita-cerita yang dipaparkan saya merasa dia bagaikan dahagakan kasih sayang dan perhatian yang sewajarnya. Kenapa saya berkata demikian?…….. Dia inginkan sesuatu yang boleh mententeramkan jiwanya sebab itu dia memilih untuk berkahwin diusia yang begitu muda (19) tetapi malangnya dia gagal juga. Saya merasa terharu juga membaca berita yang menyatakan bahawa tidak ada seorangpun ahli keluarganya yang hadir dan majlis perkahwinan tersebut berlansung dengan begitu serdahana sekali. Keadaan ini tentunya mengecewakan.

Mungkin banyak lagi peristiwa-peristiwa lain yang membuatkan Sufiah merasa keciwa dengan ahli keluarganya yang menyebabkan dia sudah hilang kepercayaan dan tidak mengharapkan apa apa lagi.

Saya harap Kak Halimahton tidak keberatan untuk bercerita akan keadaan sebenar yang berlaku sehingga boleh menyebabkan Sufiah mengambil tindakkan yang sangat tragis ini.

Buat Iskander berusahalah untuk mencari Sufiah dengan menggunakan segala kebijaksanaan yang anda miliki jangan hanya berserah kepada undang-undang sehinggakan tidak mampu untuk mencari jalan keluarnya dari kemelut ynag sedang berlaku.

SEMOGA BERJAYA …INSYAALLAH AMIN.

]]> By: aunt yati http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1014 aunt yati Fri, 02 May 2008 15:18:50 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1014 my apology , it shud be www.hmetro.com.my my apology , it shud be http://www.hmetro.com.my

]]> By: aunt yati http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1013 aunt yati Fri, 02 May 2008 15:13:48 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-1013 hi iskandar, go to website: www.mstar.com.my the found sufiah, im beginning to feel the same as Ibu Haz,... hi iskandar, go to website: http://www.mstar.com.my the found sufiah, im beginning to feel the same as Ibu Haz,…

]]> By: Ayesha Hamid http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-989 Ayesha Hamid Thu, 01 May 2008 05:51:53 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-989 Assalamualaykum, May Allah grant Sufiah guidance. May Allah Forgive her and bring her to the Right Path, insha'allah. Salam, Ayesha Assalamualaykum, May Allah grant Sufiah guidance. May Allah Forgive her and bring her to the Right Path, insha’allah. Salam, Ayesha

]]> By: Ibu Haz http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-982 Ibu Haz Tue, 29 Apr 2008 18:12:34 +0000 http://hyusof.com/?p=4#comment-982 Puan Halimaton and Iskander, I realise there is a serious effort to search for Sufiah by the Malay Students Community in the UK. This is because they believe that she could have been forced into doing what she is doing. I read their arguments and some make sense. If so, I suggest you approach this lady Susana Trimarco from Argentina. She has been fighting the case for "forced prostitution" there since she believes that her daughter has been forced to become prostitute. She lost her daughter (since 10 years ago), but by her sheer effort, has saved many young girls out from prostitution. I read her story today in the Readers' Digest (Malaysian Edition). It was a heart moving story of a mother searching for her lost daughter just like your Sufiah. You may find her story in the internet. Google her name. All the best to you and your family. Puan Halimaton and Iskander,

I realise there is a serious effort to search for Sufiah by the Malay Students Community in the UK. This is because they believe that she could have been forced into doing what she is doing. I read their arguments and some make sense. If so, I suggest you approach this lady
Susana Trimarco from Argentina. She has been fighting the case for “forced prostitution” there since she believes that her daughter has been forced to become prostitute. She lost her daughter (since 10 years ago), but by her sheer effort, has saved many young girls out from prostitution. I read her story today in the Readers’ Digest (Malaysian Edition). It was a heart moving story of a mother searching for her lost daughter just like your Sufiah. You may find her story in the internet. Google her name.

All the best to you and your family.

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