Corrections of Misconceptions
Much has been written in the press about Sufiah’s current occupation, but to be perfectly frank, the vast majority of news articles out there are completely misleading on a number of crucial points regarding the family history. Sadly, it seems that most journalists would rather entertain their readers than focus on writing factually accurate articles; it’s not entirely their fault, though, as Farooq often talked nonsense to journalists and sometimes seemed to be actively trying to cultivate the appearance of eccentricity. Most of the family were embarrassed whenever he gave an interview to the press. In any case, let’s clear up some of those inaccuracies right now.
Misconception 1: All the Yusof children were taught via Farooq’s “accelerated learning methods” — a tortuous regime involving studying in the freezing cold, punishments for answering questions incorrectly, and “stretching and breathing exercises”.
Actually, Farooq wasn’t even responsible for the majority of the teaching! For most of the Yusof children’s early life, Halimahton was practically a single parent as Farooq was in prison (having been convicted of mortgage fraud) or on the run for six years — he only returned to the household when Iskander, the youngest at the time, was seven years old. By this stage, the Yusof children were already prodigies and were also anything from three to seven years ahead in most academic subjects, in spite of the fact that they spent most of their time engaged in less bookish activities (such as tennis or playing with other children).
So who really taught the Yusof children? Why, Halimahton of course! That said, she never intended to “create prodigies”, hothouse/homeschool her children, or in fact do anything other than bring up her children as well as she could under difficult circumstances. But even though she was on her own, Halimahton had a unique skillset that made her ideally suited to the role of caregiver, teacher, and provider for four young children. She quickly recognised that all babies are naturally curious and enthusiastic about learning, so it made perfect sense to not waste the early years of a child’s life by failing to give them any mental stimulation. And in a nutshell, this is why all the Yusof children became prodigies — Halimahton was able to develop a special bond with each of her children that made it very easy for them to learn from her.
Eventually, when Zuleikha was born, Halimahton realised that she had developed something resembling a “method” without really meaning to, but rather than being comprised of a strict set of rules, her techniques were flexible and varied depending on the personality, interests, and mood of the child. She didn’t call it an “accelerated learning method” because she believed it was foolhardy to try to teach a child faster than they were already willing to learn, and there is considerable evidence to suggest that in the long run this only hinders a person’s memory and understanding. In fact, Halimahton wouldn’t even try to teach any of her children unless they were in a good mood and interested in what she had to say, because she felt it was important that her children associate the act of learning with pleasant emotions.
The end result was that by the time the Yusof children were old enough for school, they were already many years ahead of their peers, but like most parents Halimahton decided to enroll them at the local Northampton school anyway — she had no intention of trying to homeschool her kids. Unfortunately, at that point in time (around 1989) most UK schools made absolutely no serious provision for highly able students who were so far ahead. While the school did make an effort to provide resources so that the Yusof children could keep themselves occupied, all that happened in practice was that they were left to study on their own and Halimahton invariably needed to supplement their schoolwork at home. In the end, Sufiah said that she no longer wanted to go to school and wanted her mother to teach her at home; Halimahton was dubious, as she was a single parent with limited finances and she knew that homeschooling would require a substantial commitment of time and effort. But after a long discussion with all her children, it became clear that they were all adamant about the fact that they would rather learn at home, and Halimahton enjoyed teaching (and learning with!) her kids so much that she eventually agreed.
After this decision was made, Halimahton resumed teaching her children; essentially, she just taught them according to her own comprehensive curriculum at whatever rate at which the children wanted to learn. There was never any need to try to get them to learn particularly quickly, as they were already many years ahead. All the “prodigy stuff” had been done in the first five years — the kids just worked for one or two hours per day, and that was it as far as formal schoolwork was concerned.
Unfortunately, everything changed when Farooq returned home in 1993. The children were initially very enthusiastic about his returning home — aside from just being happy to see him, they all wanted to show him what they were capable of. Halimahton had considered divorcing him, but her children’s excitement about their dad being back home made her feel that it was not worth proceeding with a messy divorce, as long as he learnt from his mistakes and avoided any criminal activities in the future. But things quickly took a turn for the worse. Farooq’s conviction made it difficult for him to find a job, so he decided to stay at home to “help” Halimahton raise the kids, and this was the beginning of all the problems.
Farooq’s ego proved to be the biggest problem — he believed himself to be more intelligent and knowledgeable than his wife, so he took over the children’s tennis coaching from her (but their academic work continued as normal). Unlike Halimahton, Farooq knew nothing about how to relate to children and he frequently grew impatient because he could not get them to do what he wanted them to do; the public nature of tennis would also often hurt his pride, as he would feel personally embarrassed whenever they didn’t perform. This would lead to outbursts on the tennis court where he would shout at the children and occasionally smack them. Again, Halimahton considered divorce but because of her precarious financial situation and the fact that she was pregnant with Zuleikha, she decided to try reasoning with him instead to persuade him that his behaviour was wrong. In retrospect, this was clearly a bad decision but at the time it seemed like divorce would only have lead to extreme hardship and an uncertain future.
While Farooq was coaching the children in tennis, their academic work was still progressing (independently and with Halimahton) and eventually they were ready to start working on their A-levels (apart from Iskander, who was much younger than the others and preferred to study for his GCSEs with his mother). Most of the childrens’ A-level work was undertaken independently; Farooq did not spend much time teaching them except when their exams were near. He was just as bad at teaching maths as he was at tennis coaching, and his inability to relate the material to his children caused the same kinds of outbursts as on the tennis court. Fortunately, the work Halimahton had done with the children previously had given them the ability to work very effectively on their own, so in spite of Farooq’s poor behaviour they still performed very well in their A-levels.
In summary, Farooq contributed very little to the children’s education and academic achievements before university — probably about 75% of their education was with Halimahton when they were still young, and the rest was due to their own independent work. Without him, the Yusof children would have done things just as early but without any of the scandals that he so often created for himself.
Misconception 2: The Yusof children only became prodigies because they were forced to work unreasonably hard and/or were homeschooled.
False. Halimahton never worked with them for two hours per day, and during their A-levels the kids studied as much or as little as they wanted to.
As explained above, the children were only homeschooled because they were already prodigies by the time they enrolled at their local school and it was unable to provide for them. Today, though it depends to a certain extent on the area, many good schools are better-equipped to handle such highly able children.
The children were not born prodigies, but Halimahton’s ability to figure out lots of ways to stimulate and encourage their natural love of learning helped them achieve the potential that she believes is innate in every child.
Misconception 3: TV and pop music were banned in the household.
This isn’t even remotely true. All the children regularly watched many TV series like Fawlty Towers, the X-Files, and Star Trek, in addition to the usual movies, sports, and so on. Their tastes have changed a lot since then, though!
Pop music certainly wasn’t banned either — everyone in the family likes music and it was common to hear anything from rap to classical all over the household. Halimahton actually considers music, singing and dancing (not to mention acting) to be an excellent way to relate things to young children.
Misconception 4: The Yusof parents put tremendous pressure on their kids to succeed.
Untrue, because they didn’t need to — high achievers naturally tend to have correspondingly high expectations and thus they put a lot of pressure on themselves to do well. Most of the truly ridiculous expectations were held by people outside the family, who often seemed to believe that a prodigy should be perfect at absolutely everything; in reality, prodigies fail just as often as anyone else, which isn’t actually a bad thing as eventually everyone needs to learn to cope with failure in a sensible manner.
Misconception 5: Sufiah’s abilities were unique, even within the family.
Not really — while she was very good, she’s just been in the media spotlight much more than the others because of what happened after she went to Oxford. Iskander was a year younger when he went to university and Zuleikha was considerably younger than either when she completed her A-levels (although she already has the qualifications, Zuleikha has not yet applied to university as she wants to explore many of her interests and further develop as an individual before entering uni). Of course, the media like to portray Sufiah as a unique case because it makes for a better story.
April 8th, 2008 at 12:56 am
I found your blog on google and read a few of your other posts. I just added you to my Google News Reader. Keep up the good work. Look forward to reading more from you in the future.
Stacey Derbinshire
April 9th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
take care. my prayers are with you.
April 9th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
Pray to ALLAH and be very patient with what your family have going thru. After going thru all this ordeal hope Sufiah will change for the good of it and ask forgiveness to ALLAH for what has happen to your family. My doa to all your family and banyak bersabar. AMIN
April 9th, 2008 at 1:40 pm
Hanya Allah SWT tahu rintangan yang dilalui oleh kalian. Pedulikan orang lain. Teruskan hidup kalian sebagai Hamba-Nya. Semoga kita semua dirahmati Allah senantiasa. =)
April 9th, 2008 at 1:41 pm
my family from malaysian-Selangor to hope sufiah back your family.P/s not remind old memory and ingat2lah ALLAH and prayer every day.Insyallah
from
Nazali
4 Child (3 boy-Amirul Syahmi,Arif firdaus,Muhamad Danish Irfan and 1 girl-Aisya Qistina)
April 9th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
My heart sank when I first learned about what has became of Sufiah. The way the media potrays her is as if she had never had any normal life as a kid! The photo and your clarification in this blog has effectively cleared the air on this issue. Had I not read this blog, I would have believed the media and would have “blamed” your family on what had happened.
Alhamdulillah, all of you are staying strong together at this difficult times. I make doa that God gives your family the strength to cope.
We’ll make doa also for Sufiah, may Allah forgives her, have mercy on her and guides her the right path. When (not if, but when) she comes back, open your arms to her and lead her to the right path as you have done many years before. Allah is most forgiving.
Sufiah, if you are reading this, I hope you take a second to contemplate on all this and please go back to our loving mother. I know you may have had some difficult times with your father, but why take it on yourself?
April 9th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
My heart sank when I first learned about what has became of Sufiah. The way the media potrays her is as if she had never had any normal life as a kid! The photo and your clarification in this blog has effectively cleared the air on this issue. Had I not read this blog, I would have believed the media and would have “blamed” your family on what had happened.
Alhamdulillah, all of you are staying strong together at this difficult times. I make doa that God gives your family the strength to cope.
We’ll make doa also for Sufiah, may Allah forgives her, have mercy on her and guides her the right path. When (not if, but when) she comes back, open your arms to her and lead her to the right path as you have done many years before. Allah is most forgiving.
Sufiah, if you are reading this, I hope you take a second to contemplate on all this and please go back to your loving mother. I know you may have had some difficult times with your father, but why take it on yourself?
April 9th, 2008 at 2:09 pm
May God bless you the greatest mother.I salute you.
Be patient and Allah will show you the way,InsyaAllah.
From ; Siti Patimah,Adil,Alya,Cean and Sarah.
April 9th, 2008 at 2:12 pm
Dear Halimahtun,
As a mother, i do feel so touch with kind of child who being brought up nicely and yet still havent a slightest mind of remembering us as mother. I do feel, behind what Sufiah has mentioned to the media, some how or rather the lonely feels still be inside her…
Do pray as what we Malaysian did… of her return to Islam… I positively knows Sufiah, (if she in reading this blog) still love her mother and family.
Rgds
Linda (mother of three)
April 9th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
Assalamualaikum…
Patient is the best way, hope Sufiah will come back to u! Pray to ALLAH. Insyallah..Sufiah will find the right way with our pray.
YA ALLAH, terangkanlah hati Sufiah, tunjukkan Sufiah ke jalan yang benar. Bukakanlah hati & pemikiran Sufiah untuk sedar dan bangun dari segala-galanya. Kuatkan iman! Ingat ALLAH.
April 9th, 2008 at 2:17 pm
Asalamualaikum…
semoga Allah tabahkan hati anda sekeluarga dlm menghadapi dugaan ini.
berdoalan sentiasa semoga Allah swt membuka pintu hati sufiah untuk
bertaubat. doa saya untuk anda sekeluarga.
April 9th, 2008 at 2:19 pm
I quickly turn on the PC after watching the news on TV today so that I won’t forget your blog URL. At least, we in Malaysia have a clearer picture on what had happened. Keep on posting as I believe more Malaysian will be visiting here. My prayers with all of you.
April 9th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Assalamualaikum kakak halimahton.
Semoga kakak diberikan kekuatan oleh Allah s.w.t untuk menempuhi segala dugaan ini. Percayalah. Ada hikmah disebalik ujian ini. Diharap agar Sufiah akan kembali ke jalan yang benar. Tabahlah wahai kakak Halimahton. InsyaAllah, saya sekeluarga akan mendoakan agar Sufiah diberikan petunjuk jalan yang benar. Amin…
April 9th, 2008 at 2:39 pm
hello there..
i found out about ur blog from the news on a local tv here in malaysia..
i think i understand what ur going through as my mother was a single mother and my dad was somehow a bit problematic..but whatever it is the most important thing is that as children we must always be there for our mother.although she does not really express what she feels..but deep inside her heart only god knows what she feels..
i will always pray that everything will be fine..just hold on, be strong and take care.. =)
April 9th, 2008 at 2:49 pm
salam..
never ever feel hopeless…be strong to bring back Sufiah…don’t leave her, be with her strongly, insyaAllah, she will come back!!
April 9th, 2008 at 3:01 pm
hye there,
i’m also found out your blog id from the news on tv3 just now..
it’s sensible to have the blog to explained the messed, i’m one of the thousand malaysian citizen that followed sufiah story, and always hoping sufiah got Allah S.W.T guidence to comeback to the family. We must support her to start over a new life. She’s still young, there’s will always a hopes for her..
April 9th, 2008 at 3:07 pm
I SAW YOU ON TV!! YOUR KIDS VERY CLEVER!!
I HAVE 4 KIDS I WISH TO MAKE THEM GENIUS TOO
April 9th, 2008 at 3:08 pm
SAYA PASTI AYAH KAMU TELAH DIANIYA KERAJAAN BRITAIN SAMPAI TERPAKSA NGAKU & MASUK PENJARA YANG AKHIRNYA SUFIAH PULAK BERONTAK JADI…
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April 9th, 2008 at 3:16 pm
I want to see Sufiah back to her family! I want it happen! When I saw her at the first time on news when she’s in Oxford, she’s was my second idol. Even I’ve never met her, but I really felt that I really want to make her as my friend..from her face, Sufiah is a good person, originally. May Allah S.W.T bless your family..
April 9th, 2008 at 3:26 pm
Assalamualaikum Makcik Halimahton, Abraham, Aisha, Iskander, Zuleikha and Sufiah. I pray that you will reunite and become a family again. There’s always hope. My family and I will continue praying for your well being. p.s. Makcik Halimahton, my father is also from Muar and we had a stint in the UK (Nottingham) when he was in uni. I’m a Nottingham born Malay myself. Your family pictures remind me of my family pictures taken when we were living there.
April 9th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
Dear Auntie Halimahtun,
Came accross this blog while watching TV3’s 8.00pm news td. May ALLAH s.w.t protect u and ur family. Insyallah.
April 9th, 2008 at 6:13 pm
Salam MAL(+60128624623),
Saya tak sokong K’jaan mana2.
Cuma saya nak tau kenapa sdra. MAL berfikir bahwa En Yusof kena aniya?.
Ingin saya ketengahkan bahawa cara berfikir orang Malaysia berbeza dgn warga british.
Ini bermakna sdra. MAL perlu ketengahkan bukti yang menyokong pendapat sdra., hujah yang bersifat dengar-cakap (hear-say) tidak berapa sesuai utk digunakan.
Terima kasih.
hamdi
April 9th, 2008 at 6:53 pm
Askm Pn Halimahtoon.
Saya setuju dengan kenyataan Pn bahawa apa yg berlaku dan dilakukan oleh Sufiah diatas kerelaan beliau. Mungkin Sufiah genius Maths, tetapi tidak semestinya dia waras. Saya rasa ada yang tak kena dengan salah urat dalam kepalanya. Kalau dalam bahasa org Terengganu ” crako’ atau lebih tepat lagi kepala dia tak betul. Inshaallah, tak lama lagi dia akan jemu dengan ‘pekerjaan’ dia tu. Jadi saya minta andainya beliau kembali kepada keluarga, terimalah beliau dengan hati yang redha. Setiap musibah keatas kita bukan bererti kita ditimpa bala, akan tetapi terimalah musibah ini sebagai tanda ujian kasih Allah s.w.t kepada kita. Setiap manusia atas muka bumi Allah s.w.t ini tidak terkecuali. Cepat atau lambat aje.. Siapa sangka ya. Sufiah yang comel dan pintar boleh memilih jalan ini. Sedangkan dulu, saya rasa tiada ibu-bapa yang paling bertuah macam Pn. kerana mendapat anak yang genius macam Sufiah. Kita tidak boleh menjangka arah tuju hidup kita. Kita cuma boleh berdoa dan berusaha.
Saya berharap Pn. akan sentiasa berdoa semuga Sufiah cepat-cepat sedar. Yang berlaku biarkan berlalu…
April 9th, 2008 at 6:59 pm
Assalamu’alaikum..
Dear Halimahton’s Family,
Allah Said:
“AND DESPAIR NOT OF THE SPIRIT OF ALLAH”
(Surah Yusuf: verse 87)
Please be patient..
April 9th, 2008 at 8:54 pm
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
Well, I see there are updates!
Keep up the good work, InshaAllah
Mieka’s owner…
April 9th, 2008 at 11:31 pm
salam alaik ,
Its great to hear the truth instead of listening and reading those articles made by all the reporters with other interest rather than trying to make thing goes better .
Hope you can update more .and i really hope Sufiah know what is she searching in her life . She might went trough a lot of ‘weird’ paths in this life , maybe that’s the way Allah want to teach her about this life , or maybe that’s what she need to go trough 1st before she found the right path with a convincing way for her . Everybody have their own way of life , pray that she get the hidayah , inshaAllah…
April 10th, 2008 at 12:51 am
well i dont know what to say…sometime things just happens you know….we didnt planned it to be this way but it happens…sufiah is a big girl and she will come around someday….its sad that the media is trying to make things bigger and more speculations and on and on….some may say its the family upbring and on and on….like i say sometime things just happen….i wouldnt want to say who is wrong and who is right…in life we all go thru all sorts of path in our lifes so…what we can do is just hope for the best….life is a learning experience some are good and some are bad…one day we surely realize what bad we have done and turn our life around….i am not here to judge anyone like the media out there ….i am here because i believe in god and what we do or dont we are the one that will answer to god….not the others…and may god bless you and your family and someday things will be back to normal like it used to be….just need sometime…..
April 10th, 2008 at 1:21 am
Semoga Allah swt berkati kamu sekeluarga. Tabahlah hadapi ujian Allah swt ni. Insyaaalh there is light at the end of tunnel.
April 10th, 2008 at 1:52 am
Salam,
Never ever feel sad in whatever happened to your beloved family….be strong and remember that ALLAH always with us….
April 10th, 2008 at 1:56 am
sufiah enter oxford received wide coverage from media especially Malaysia at that time. I understand how u feel bout all those untrue story bout your family. be patient as Allah’s bless will always be with those who remember Allah.
To sufiah, if u read this, it is ok to try something new. but your job today is an ancient job. And only those who lost wisdom will do it at this era. And if u still dont know what you are looking for in life, turn to ALLAH! ALLAH! ALLAH! Pray for Allah’s guidance. Before it’s is too late….before we meet him in Akhirat…
April 10th, 2008 at 2:38 am
Hi ya Pn H dan anak2 tersayang, terima kasih kerana mengadakan blog ini yang menerangkan lebih terperinci akan tuduhan yang dilemparkan kepada Puan sebagai ibu Sufiah, yang kononnya tekanan dari keluarga dan menidakkan kebebasan dia di masa remaja menyebabkan dia menjadi liar dan hilang harga diri di masa ini. Saya harap Puan H dan anak2 tabah dalam mengahdapi konflik senario Sufiah dan berharap agar Sufiah dapat kembali ke pangkal jalan hendaknya, bertaubat sebelom terlewat. Walau apapon berlaku harap Puan dan anak2 dapat mengawal emosi apabila membaca atau mendengar pengakuan Sufiah akan hidupnya sekarang ini. May Allah bless u all…..
April 10th, 2008 at 3:05 am
Salam,
Puan H i hope you’ll be strong and always pray for Sufiah..Insyaallah she’ll be home if everyone is praying for her.
To Sufiah, if your are reading this please pray for Allah’s guidence. I know that are a smart person and dont waste it…May Allah bless u n family always…
April 10th, 2008 at 3:44 am
Salam to Puan H and your lovely family,
Continue with whatever you are doing with your family. InsyaAllah, you are on the right track. But, please stay away from Farook. He will destroy everything that you have done for the family. As for Sufiah, with all the prayers that she is getting from friends and families from around the globe, InsyaAllah she’ll be back with the family, very soon. May God be with you and your family.
Zoomer
A father of a cute little girl
April 10th, 2008 at 4:23 am
Be strong….. Allah always with us…..
Suffiah…. We love you……
April 10th, 2008 at 4:26 am
Dear Kak Halimahton,
Really salute you that you have sucessfully raised your children in such a good way regardless having bad circumstances (bad spouse, limited financial, surviving environment etc). If I were you, I don’t think I can make it… I hope that someday people realize what has been reported by the media (espcially UK media) was totally untrue and they should visit this web instead. Personally, what has done by Sufiah was not your fault nor your husband (even though I know Farook was bad). She should not put the blame on how she’s has been raised after all sins done by her. She should be responsible on what she has done. Deep in my heart, I always pray to Allah that some day she’ll be back on right track… Insyaallah.
April 10th, 2008 at 4:59 am
At last i can get a clearer picture on what is happenning to your family. Before this, sorry to say, it just a negative perception given by the media to your family. With this blog i think people can judge and made a good impression to your family. May Allah bless your family and we pray for Sufiah.
April 10th, 2008 at 5:28 am
I’m very saddened with what had happened to Halimahton’s family. Be strong and just let Sufiah decided her own way of life. Sometimes being a sinner doesn’t mean we’re not saint. Suffiah loved the job, so we need to respect her for that. Who are we to talk to her about what’s good and what’s bad. We just pray that she will be safe and repent one day.
April 10th, 2008 at 5:34 am
saya yakin, semua rakyat malaysia berdoa agar sufia kembali ke jalan yang benar dan berharap agar keluarga Pn Halimaton akan terus tabah menghadapi dugaan ALLAH SWT.
April 10th, 2008 at 5:40 am
Assalamualaikum..
sy dah byk post kat forum supaya forumers jgn blame sufiah sbb kite x tahu cerita sbnr tp ramai yg x mengerti..
ramai terpedaya dgn media2 yg hanya nak buat cerita2 sensasi..
sy juga sudah post kan website ni kat forum tu supaya mereka buka mata dan lihat kebenaran..
byk2 bersabar, kami sentiasa mendoakan kesejahteraan keluarga mu Halimahton-Yusof..
Amin..
April 10th, 2008 at 5:43 am
ermm…to sufiah’s family….
dont give up..
we understand what do yo feel right now…always pray to Allah
April 10th, 2008 at 5:51 am
Assalamualaikum Pn Halimah,
1) Being a mother of 2 young kids, I totally emphatize with your situation. How many times have I not wondered myself what will my daughter be when she’s all grown up, and that thought can become rather terrifying considering the ‘akhir zaman’ that we lived in right now. To me as a Muslim parent , nothing is more challenging than trying to successfully develop our children to become true ’solihin’ that excel both in this world and the hereafter.
What you face is a great ‘test’ indeed, and the Almighty gives great test only to ‘great’ people- so hold on steadfast to Him in this crucial moments.
2) I am also greatly interested and inspired when you wrote that you unintentionally (yet successfully no doubt) came across a technique that stimulated the learning abilities in your children. Not that I am trying to raise prodigees myself
but I believed that a lot of us parents would like to share your experience. Maybe when times are not so pressing, you may want to write a good deal of your experience. Maybe we readers can benefit some good things despite the Sufiah ’scandals’.
April 10th, 2008 at 6:08 am
tahniah sbb anak2 yg lain bjk2 blaka. biasalah… x semua buah baik dlmnya. memang selalunya kahwin kacuk ni dpt anak2 yg tip top. sy bks pljr http://kingston.ac.uk akan cuba mempromosikan lg cinta suci ini kpd umum agr lbh ramai lg wjd bjk pandai d seluruh dunia bg umat islam supaya kfrn x trus sesat…
April 10th, 2008 at 6:13 am
salam..
kak….
saya terharu dgn ketabahan kakak..
semoga Allah membalasnya dgn hidayahNya…
tak lupa doa untuk Sufiah agar dia kembali ke pangkal jalan…
April 10th, 2008 at 6:32 am
assalamualaikum puan halimahton..
saya kesal dgn cara media barat memaparkan berita tentang anak puan sufiah..apa yang dilakukan oleh sufiah mmg salah dr segi agama..saya doakan dia balik ke pangkal jalan, islam adalah sebaik-baik agama, dan Allah adalah sebaik-baik pengampun.. semoga puan tabah dlm mengharungi dugaan ini..sebab apa yang berlaku ada hikmahnya..banyak2kanlah berdoa agar semua yang keruh menjadi jernih, kadang2 Allah turunkan hujan utk beri kita pelangi, sy harap puan sekeluarga bersabar..
April 10th, 2008 at 6:43 am
Hi. I’m glad that you have decided to counter all the bad press in an intelligent and democratic manner. May Allah bless you and your family always.
Your family would be perfect, if not for your husband. But then again, without your husband, you wouldn’t be blessed with these amazing children. May be cliche, but truly … Everything happens for a reason.
God Bless!
April 10th, 2008 at 6:51 am
Assalamualaikum..,
Puan Halimahton & anak2…
Puan kelihatan tenang dalam TV malam tadi..
Saya cukup terharu melihat & membaca ttg kekuatan
semangat puan membesarkan anak2 berseorangan kat UK..
Saya percaya…jauh disudut hati puan amat2 sedih dgn apa
yg terjadi pada sufiah…
Moga puan & anak2 terus Tabah & berdoa moga sufiah segera KEMBALI pada puan & famili….
saya turut merasakan beban perasaan puan itu…
April 10th, 2008 at 6:54 am
i dont want my children to be genuises. because there is a fine line between geniuses and loonies, evidently. and its ok if they grow up being failures in the already tainted money making education system. besides, if u have a piece of degree doesnt mean ur family is happy. doesnt mean ur going to get millions out of it either. to me, it is wisdom we all seek. because everywhere seems to be more liberating than malaysia, most of them have a hard time coming back to malaysia anyways.
i mean, i’m a student and all i think that all parents want is results. so every little thing equals results. what happens to akhlak?
blame it on me, i dare. because if i feel angst at the world and how nothing we can do to change it as nu age youths. i’m not surprised most teens and ppl my age become at their worst and some even strap bombs to themselves. The war in iraq has got to me. and yet we close one eye. Dajjal is not a creature–It is a collective majority of humans who have closed one eye. think.
April 10th, 2008 at 7:15 am
awesome mum
April 10th, 2008 at 7:20 am
Dear all, I’m really regret to what happened to suffiah. As a muslim, I hope she will get the guidance from Allah SWT.
We pray for you and your family.
InsyaALLAH..
Amiin
April 10th, 2008 at 7:23 am
wonderful mom froM mUAr- Malaysia.
May ALLAH bless u.
April 10th, 2008 at 7:45 am
Assalammualaikum.
Semoga Allah sentiasa melindungi kalian semua..Amin
April 10th, 2008 at 7:56 am
Everyone has their past. Proceed no turning back. Proceed for the right, not the wrong way. Sufiah, think! think! think!
April 10th, 2008 at 8:01 am
Assalamualaikum,
to Pan Halimah - Semoga lebih kuat dalam mengharungi liku hidup
to Sufiah - Sebagai umat Muhammad, pastinya anda juga maklum apa yang baik dan buruknya buat diri anda.
Semoga kalian semua sentiasa di rahmati Allah.
April 10th, 2008 at 9:04 am
asm.
Saya terbaca kisah puan dalam The Star. Saya tidak mahu berlagak mengetahui seluruh kisah puan, saya percaya ada kisah yang disembunyikan.
Blog ini adalah untuk puan dan nama baik keluarga puan, gambar saat bahagia adalah secebis dari sejarah hidup.
Saya melihat temuramah sufiah melalui youtube, sangat menyedihkan, dia menyembunyikan sesuatu dalam riak tenang wajah yang dibuat buat. Seolah olah segalanya untuk menghukum sesuatu.
Kita sebagai manusia tidak dapat lari dari kesalahan, akui kesilapan dan ucapkan dengan jujur…mungkin ada persoalan hidup yang ingin dia gambarkan.
wallahu’alam
April 10th, 2008 at 9:12 am
ALLAH never fails to grant our petitions, so keep on going for Him without doubting or murmuring.
April 10th, 2008 at 9:17 am
Assallammualaikum.
Sy rasa amat terharu dgn semangat dan sokongan yg diberikan di forum ini,lihatlah bagaimana rasanya kasih sayang kita sesama saudara Islam…Kisah Pn.H merupakan salah satu kisah yg sering berlaku dalm masyarakt kita pada hari ini cuma publisiti yg terlampau oleh media lebih kpd utk menjual akbar mereka. Pd Pn.H anda perlu kuat, kerana semua yg tersayg masih memerlukan puan termasuk Sufiah. Kami mendoakan agar Allah memberikan Pn.H kekuatan yg luarbiasa…Insya’Allah Sufiah akan kembali kepangkuan Puan. Doa utk Pn.H sekeluarga dr kami yg mengasihi Pn.H saudara seagama kami dunia dan akhirat.
April 10th, 2008 at 9:19 am
assalamualaikum…
to yusof family….be strong…pray to Allah…just face it…insyaAllah one day sufiah will repent…of what her did today…we r malaysian muslim always stand by ur side….may Allah bless sufiah and yusof family…InsyaAllah..
April 10th, 2008 at 9:20 am
Assalamualaikum Puan H n Family,
I know u are a strong, very strong woman. I’m writing again this message especially to Sufiah. Sufiah, we as a Muslim, no matter how bad we are, how confuse we are in life, how destroyed our heart is, how scary experience we had in the past, never ever abandoned our family. U may be happy with what u r doing right now, but in the end when u r getting older only your FAMILY willing to help you. not your friends, nor clients. Think of your future girl.
Pity your mom, she had enough in her life. Return to your family. Money can’t buy anything especially honor,dignity,pride. Once you lost it, you will be remembered as …… And pray a lot to ALLAH. only ALLAH can help us in any situation, how difficult it is. Alhamdulillah.
April 10th, 2008 at 9:21 am
Assalamuailaikum w.b.t…
Kpd pn. halimah dan family, ape yg terjadi adalah dugaan dr Allah s.w.t.. moga pn dan family menerima nye dgn tabah… berat mata kami memandang namun lebih berat lagi beban yg keluarga pn tanggung… kami warga2 DICE Community akan selalu mendoakan agar keluarga yusof dpt bsama seperti dulu… amin…
http://www.dicecommunity.proboards47.com/
April 10th, 2008 at 9:28 am
i have 2 beautiful daughters…1st name tsufaye nursarah and 2nd is tsufaye nursophia…i hope my children also genius like ur childrens…insyaAllah …
April 10th, 2008 at 9:36 am
as a muslim, i feel really sad to know what is happening to sufiah right now and looking at her half nude pictures really breaks my heart. i hope sufiah will quit from being a prostitute. your family must bring her back to the right path. perkara yang dilakukan sufiah adalah perbuatan yang dilaknat Allah S.W.T. pls do not let her be that way forever. marilah kita sama-sama berdoa agar sufiah sedar akan kesilapannya dan segera bertaubat. amin.
April 10th, 2008 at 9:41 am
feel sad bout what u’ve goin thru..she must hv reasons why she’s doin that.. dun worry she’ll be home soon..be strong and moved on..life goes on.. take care u guys..
April 10th, 2008 at 9:48 am
assalamualaikum…
to sufiah….
i will tell my daughters….about u when they grow up….good things and bad things…no matter what…i know that one day u will be a good person…(repent) please come back to Allah…do 5 time a day…this is good for ur life…i think…only u can help urself..insyaAllah….
April 10th, 2008 at 10:03 am
I find this site very helpful in lettin the whole world know about Sufiah’s family.
Did you include Islamic Studies in your teaching the children , Pn Halimahton?
April 10th, 2008 at 10:55 am
assalamualaikum….kenapa kebiasaannya orang yang dibanggakan kepandaiannya tetapi…… saya tidak menyalahkan sesiapa…..Cuma….biarkan saja anak yang pandai celik ketika kecil membesar seperti biasa…. kepada keluarga Halimatun….semoga diberkati hidup ALLAH hendaknya. Suksesssss
April 10th, 2008 at 11:01 am
hello and send my regards to all sufiah’s family… i hope this family especially sufiah’s mother, because all mothers never think and want their children turn down their attitude. Isn’t true what Sufiah said that her occupation is ‘good and best’……
April 10th, 2008 at 11:05 am
Assalaamu’alaikum Halimah,
As an ex TKCian , a mother of 4 lovely boys, and a committee member of the National Association of Gifted Children , Malaysia I salute your efforts in nurturing your own children to the fullest.
I am so glad you have this website because most of the time the public view gifted children as nerds and lopsided human beings.
From what you write, your children were also exposed to the very things other kids do. To bring up 5 children away from home under such marital circumstances is no mean feat. Nothing’s going to be perfect.
Things happen for a reason and I believe there is hikmah in every incident. Allah SWT is Most Beneficent and Most Merciful. Keep on, Halimah, May Allah SWT bless your efforts and answer your prayers!
April 10th, 2008 at 11:13 am
apalah rakyat malaysia nie. hampir nak msk 24 jam tp x rmai pun yg nak tulis blog kat akak halimah kt nie. ramai yg tau blog ini stlh saksikan tv3 hmpr 9 mlm. tinggal 3 jam lagi tp msh bwh 1 rts. sbrkanlah. kan skrg dah ada hp utk sms & internet bg email!
yg bnr,
http://hanief.blogspot.com @ 0123418737 & nikmatnya@hotmail.com
April 10th, 2008 at 11:51 am
dear puan halimathon and family,
i was totally sad on hearing the news about sufiah.. after reading the news from the media, i had a misconception about the family. but after i have read this blog article, it is clear that you are a good mother.. and i pitied you a lot for having those challenges.. but i prayed for you and your family to be strong and patient..there are always a way for us to change.. help sufiah and open your arms for her.. if sufiah is reading this, please remember that you are not alone.. i want her to return to the family and lead a good life.. may Allah bless you and your family.
April 10th, 2008 at 12:15 pm
puan,
sy mengikuti perjalanan hidup sufiah sejak mula2 dihebahkan dulu…saya sebenarnya peminat sufiah sejak dari zaman saya sekolah…
sy sangat tersentak dgn apa yang dilaporkan tentang aktiviti sufiah sekarang…
hati saya sangat berharap semoga apa yang dipaparkan dalam media adalah bukan sufiah …dan bukan jugak mana2 gadis yang beragama islam…
setelah melihat & mendengar sendiri pengakuan sufiah di youtube…saya menangis.
hati saya tetap berharap semoga foto2 itu bukan diri dia ..dan yang bercakap itu pun bukan diri dia….kalau pon itu benar lah sufiah…saya masih berharap semoga itu bukan atas kerelaan sufiah…
kalau saya yang hanya kenal sufiah melalui media
pon merasakan sangat pilu dengan apa yang berlaku..saya sangat2 memahami perasaan puan yang mengandungkan & membesarkan nya.
sy sekarang selalu berdoa..dan berdoa ….semoga sufiah kembali ke pangkuan puan & kembali mengenal Allah.
sy juga berdoa semoga puan dapat menghadapi ujian Allah ini dengan tenang & bersabar..
Allah tidak akan menguji hambanya melainkan DIA tahu hambanya itu MAMPU…
kuatkan semangat puan…saya yakin puan memang MAMPU..
Allah bersama2 dengan orang2 yang bersabar…
Ujian Allah ini pasti ada HIKMAHnya…
saya akan terus mendoakan kesejahteraan puan sekeluarga.
April 10th, 2008 at 12:21 pm
This is a test from Allah to your family. Be patient a lot.
Kepada Jim & Jang, sama2lah kita sebarkan kewujudan laman web ni.
Sekian.
April 10th, 2008 at 12:48 pm
salam..baru jumpa pasal blog ni..akan sy sebarkan dan kongsi dgn org lain..teruskan menulis ya..nampaknya pihak media mempunyai agenda mereka yg tersendiri
April 10th, 2008 at 12:51 pm
Buat Sdri Suffiah yang saya yakin akan mengunjungi web keluarganya ini, marilah bersama kita renungkan artikel ini. Insya-Allah, Allah Maha Mengasihani..
JALAN PULANG KE PANGKUAN TUHAN AMAT LUAS
ANTARA keistimewaan Islam yang agung ini adalah jalan pulang ke pangkuan agama ini amat luas terbuka dan tidak membebankan. Peluang seorang insan kembali ke pangkuan keampunan dan keredaan Allah tidak pernah disekat oleh sebarang jarak waktu, latar diri, keturunan, atau harta.
Sesiapa yang ingin pulang ke pangkuan Allah tidak pernah dihalang oleh agama ini disebabkan jenis dosanya atau keturunan, usianya yang lanjut, atau apa sahaja.
Seseorang yang ingin kembali kepada Allah diterima oleh kerahmatan-Nya dengan syarat insan tersebut menyesali kesilapannya, benar-benar memohon keampunan dan berazam tidak mengulangi kesalahan lalu. Jika kesalahan itu sesama insan lain, dia memohon maaf dari yang dizalimi. Jika tidak mampu, bimbang mudarat yang lebih besar jika permohonan maaf dibuat, serahkan sahaja urusannya itu kepada Allah dan Allah Maha Mengetahui kadar kemampuan hamba-hamba-Nya.
Firman Allah dalam surah Ali ‘Imran 135-136: (maksudnya) Dan mereka yang apabila melakukan perbuatan keji, atau menganiaya diri sendiri, mereka ingat kepada Allah lalu memohon ampun dosa-dosa mereka - dan sememangnya tidak ada yang mengampunkan dosa-dosa melainkan Allah - dan mereka juga tidak meneruskan (perbuatan buruk) yang mereka telah lakukan itu, sedang mereka mengetahui (akan salahnya dan akibatnya). Orang- orang yang demikian sifatnya, balasannya adalah keampunan dari Tuhan mereka, dan syurga-syurga yang mengalir di bawahnya beberapa sungai, mereka kekal di dalamnya; dan yang demikian itulah sebaik-baik balasan (bagi) orang-orang yang beramal.
Islam bukan seperti sesetengah ajaran yang menyuruh seseorang yang berdosa membuat pengakuan di hadapan orang agama, atau melakukan upacara yang menyeksa diri demi penghapusan dosa seperti melukakan diri atau berjalan atas bara api atau membuat bayaran penebusan.
Demikian perbuatan sesetengah pihak mencari rezeki dengan mengambil upah untuk pelupusan dosa solat atau puasa atau ibadah yang lain, bukan dari ajaran Islam. Islam tidak pernah mengenal itu semua. Seperti Islam tidak pernah menerima sama sekalipun perbuatan sesetengah agama lain yang mengeluarkan surat berbayar untuk penghapusan dosa, demikian Islam tidak dapat menerima perbuatan penganutnya jika melakukan hal yang sama dengan mengeluarkan borang pahala yang dijual sempena Ramadan atau selainnya.
Keampunan dan rahmat Allah bukan dijual di jalanan. Ia sangat berkaitan dengan keluhuran jiwa yang ikhlas ingin kembali kepada Allah Yang Maha Pengampun. Jika keampunan hanyalah bayaran yang dibayar kepada pihak tertentu, tentulah semua orang kaya tempatnya di syurga.
Sementara si miskin yang tidak mampu membayar kepada golongan agama tiadalah habuan keampunan untuknya. Maka tidaklah perlu lagi seseorang berpegang dengan agama, cukuplah dengan membanyakkan ongkos, maka selamatlah dia di sisi Tuhan. Aduhai, tentu tidak demikian.
Firman Allah (maksudnya) Hari yang padanya harta benda dan anak-pinak tidak dapat memberikan manfaat sesuatu apapun. Kecuali orang yang datang menghadap Allah dengan hati yang sejahtera. Dan (pada hari itu) didekatkan syurga bagi orang- orang yang bertakwa. Dan diperlihatkan neraka jelas nyata kepada orang-orang yang sesat. (surah al-Syu’ara 88-91).
Seseorang yang berdosa pula, tidak disuruh mendedahkan dosanya kepada orang lain sekalipun di hadapan ulama atau siapapun di kalangan manusia. Bahkan dia disuruh bertaubat antara dia dengan Allah dan menutup keburukan dirinya daripada orang lain. Nabi s.a.w. bersabda: Sesiapa yang menutup (keburukan) seorang Muslim, Allah tutup (keburukannya) di dunia dan akhirat. (Riwayat Muslim).
Termasuk dalam perkataan Muslim itu diri insan yang berdosa itu sendiri, dia juga tentu seorang Muslim. Maka dia wajib menutup keaiban dirinya. Maka dalam Islam tidak ada ‘pengakuan dosa di hadapan paderi’. Sesiapa sahaja yang berasa berdosa dan ingin kembali kepada Allah, maka dia bertaubat di mana sahaja dia berada.
Sabda Nabi: Sesungguhnya Allah menerima taubat seorang hamba selagi nyawa belum sampai ke halkumnya. (Riwayat al- Tirmizi, dinilai hasan oleh al-Albani). Aduhai luasnya rahmat Allah dalam agama ini. Bahkan dalam sebuah hadis kudsi, Allah berfirman: Wahai anak-anak Adam, selagi mana engkau memohon dan mengharapkan dari-Ku, Aku ampunkan engkau walau apapun dosamu, Aku tidak peduli. Wahai anak-anak Adam, jika dosamu sampai ke puncak langit, lalu engkau pohon keampunan dari-Ku, Aku ampunkan engkau, aku tidak peduli. Wahai anak-anak Adam, engkau jika datang kepada-Ku dengan dosa yang hampir memenuhi bumi, namun engkau menemui-Ku tanpa mensyirikkan Daku dengan sesuatu, nescaya aku datang kepadamu dengan penuh keampunan. (Riwayat al-Tirmizi, dinilai hasan oleh al-Albani).
Bahkan kita dilarang kecewa dengan hidup disebabkan dosa yang lalu. Sebaliknya, disuruh agar sentiasa memohon keampunan daripada Allah dan jangan kecewa dari rahmat-Nya. Firman Allah dengan penuh syahdu dalam surah al-Zumar ayat 53: (maksudnya), Katakanlah: Wahai hamba- hamba-Ku yang telah melampaui batas terhadap diri mereka sendiri (dengan perbuatan maksiat), janganlah kamu berputus asa dari rahmat Allah, kerana sesungguhnya
Allah mengampunkan segala dosa; sesungguhnya Dialah jua Yang Maha Pengampun, lagi Maha Mengasihani.
Al-Imam Ibn Kathir (meninggal 774H) ketika mentafsirkan ayat ini menyebut: “Ayat yang mulia ini adalah panggilan untuk semua pembuat dosa dari kalangan yang kufur dan selain mereka agar bertaubat dan kembali kepada Allah. Ayat ini juga adalah pemberitahuan Allah Yang Maha Berkat Lagi Maha Tinggi bahawa Dia mengampunkan segala dosa untuk sesiapa yang bertaubat dan meninggalkannya, walau bagaimana besar dan banyak sekalipun dosa tersebut. Sekalipun bagaikan buih di lautan”. (Tafsir al-Quran al-‘Azim, 4/74, Beirut: Mussasah al-Rayyan).
Maka tidak ada kecewa bagi insan yang berdosa. Sekalipun kadangkala ada dosa yang tidak dapat dimaafkan oleh perasaan insan lain, namun Allah tidak pernah menutup pintunya selagi insan yang berdosa itu insaf, benar-benar kembali kepada-Nya.
Saya bicarakan tajuk ini, sesuai dengan suasana puasa. Juga agar perbincangan agama, janganlah menyebabkan manusia ini kecewa dengan diri mereka dalam mencari jalan pulang ke pangkuan Tuhan.
Agama ini begitu lunak. Pintu untuk mendekati Tuhan tidak pernah hanya dikhususkan untuk orang tertentu semata. Bahkan sesiapa sahaja yang menerima Islam ini dan berusaha mendekatkan diri dengan jalan Rasulullah maka dia akan sampai ke dalam rahmat Allah.
Tiada perbezaan antara mufti, ustaz, imam dan orang biasa. Tuhan tidak pernah menilai insan dengan gelaran-gelaran yang diberikan oleh sesama manusia. Dia melihat keluhuran jiwa dan kesahihan amalan. Entah berapa ramai orang biasa lebih mulia di sisi Tuhan dibandingkan mereka yang bersandar dengan berbagai-bagai gelaran dan pangkat. Jalan pulang ke pangkuan Tuhan tidak pernah mendiskriminasikan manusia.
Kadangkala amat menakutkan kita mendengar ucapan sesetengah orang. Saya pernah mendengar seseorang menyebut “dosa- dosa si polan tidak akan diampunkan Allah.” Ringan perkataan itu di lidah kita, amat berat kesalahannya di sisi Allah.
Sejak bilakah pula kita menjadikan wakil Tuhan dalam memutuskan rahmat atau kelaknatan di kalangan hamba-hamba-Nya. Kita menolak manusia ingin kembali dataran keampunan Allah hanya kerana emosi kita, sedangkan Allah sendiri mengisytiharkan keluasan rahmat-Nya untuk semua.
Marilah kita berkempen untuk manusia mendapatkan rahmat keampunan Allah ini. Bukan untuk orang masjid dan surau sahaja, tetapi juga semua muda-mudi di jalanan, artis di pentas, pemimpin di gelanggang politik dan seterusnya. Jangan menghukum seseorang itu sebagai tidak berpeluang menerima rahmat Allah sedangkan roh masih di jasadnya dan hukuman Allah belum pun kita tahu.
Nabi bersabda: Jika seseorang berkata: Binasalah manusia, maka dialah yang paling binasa. (Riwayat Muslim). Hadis ini bermaksud apabila seseorang berkata dengan tujuan merendahkan orang lain dan membanggakan dirinya seakan orang lain tidak mendapat kerahmatan, maka dialah akan dibinasakan Allah. Dakwah agama hendaklah merentasi sempadan-sempadan yang dibikin oleh kita. Rahmat Allah mestilah disebarkan ke semua daerah hidup yang pelbagai. Sama ada yang berada di gelanggang sukan, di pentas filem, di medan politik atau apa sahaja.
Janganlah perbincangan agama hanya menggambarkan seakan semua manusia akan memasuki neraka semata, lalu kita lupa Allah ialah Tuhan Yang Maha Rahmat. Ungkapan-ungkapan agama ini adalah ungkapan memberikan harapan, bukan menimbulkan kekecewaan.
Sehingga dalam hadis Nabi bersabda: Seorang telah melakukan satu dosa, lalu dia berkata: Wahai Tuhanku ampunilah dosaku. Lalu Allah azza wa jalla berfirman: Hamba-Ku melakukan dosa dan dia mengetahui bahawa baginya Tuhan yang boleh mengampun dan menghukumnya – dalam riwayat yang lain ditambah: Aku ampunkan dosanya. Kemudian dia kembali melakukan dosa yang lain, dia berkata: Wahai Tuhanku aku telah melakukan dosa ampunilah dosaku. Lalu Allah berfirman: Hamba-Ku melakukan dan dia mengetahui bahawa baginya Tuhan yang boleh mengampun dan menghukumnya-dalam riwayat yang lain ditambah: Aku ampunkan dosanya. Lalu dia melakukan dosa sekali lagi, dia berkata: Wahai Tuhanku aku telah melakukan dosa ampunilah dosaku. Lalu Allah berfirman: Hamba-Ku melakukan dan dia mengetahui bahawa baginya tuhan yang boleh mengampun dan menghukumnya, maka aku ampunkan hamba-Ku in, buatlah apa yang kau mahu Aku ampunkan engkau. (Riwayat al-Bukhari dan Muslim).
Hadis ini bukanlah menggalakkan manusia melakukan dosa, tetapi menceritakan hal seorang hamba yang bertaubat bersungguh-sungguh namun gagal mengawal dirinya lalu tetap terjatuh ke dalam dosa. Setiap kali berdosa, dia ikhlas memohon keampunan dan dia tetap diampun oleh Allah s.w.t.
Hadis ini memberikan semangat kepada mereka yang telah bersalah berulang kali untuk terus bertaubat bukan berputus asa dan terus mengikut jejak langkah syaitan. Walaupun barangkali orang lain akan menyebut kepadanya “tidak guna kau bertaubat, sudah berapa kali kau tetap gagal kekal atas taubatmu”, namun Allah tidak berkata demikian. Dia Yang Maha Pengampun tetap membuka pintu selagi hamba-Nya itu jujur dan ikhlas merintih kepada-Nya.
Jika Allah menutup pintu, maka kekecewaan akan meliputi jiwa hamba yang seperti ini dan akhirnya dia akan terus tenggelam dalam kejahatan. Namun dengan dibuka seperti ini, insan akan terus berusaha kembali kepada Allah setiap kali tergelincir.
Saya amat hairan, ada agama tertentu yang dikatakan mempengaruhi emosi sesetengah anak-anak muda kita disebabkan unsur kasih sayang dan rahmat berkenaan yang ditonjolkan dalam agama. Seakan anak-anak muda kita tidak pernah mendengar tentang keluasan rahmat dan keampunan Allah dalam Islam ini. Lalu mereka pun kagum dengan agama lain dan melupai agama sendiri yang diturunkan Allah ini.
Adakah kerana mereka tidak mempelajari ajaran Islam yang betul? Ataupun kempen kita kepada Islam kurang menonjolkan unsur-unsur kerahmatan agama ini?
Hendaklah kita sedar, dalam dakwah baginda Nabi bukan hanya diceritakan balasan neraka, namun diceritakan juga kenikmatan syurga. Bukan hanya tentang kemurkaan Allah kepada yang menderhakai-Nya tetapi juga rahmat-Nya bagi yang kembali kepada kepada-Nya.
Firman Allah dalam surah al-Hijr 49-50: (maksudnya) Khabarkanlah kepada hamba-hamba-Ku (Wahai Muhammad), bahawa Akulah Yang Maha Pengampun lagi Maha Mengasihani (bagi mereka yang bertaubat dan beramal soleh). Dan bahawa azab-Ku, adalah azab yang tidak terperi sakitnya, (bagi mereka yang tetap dalam kederhakaan).
Di suasana Ramadan ini, semoga taubat mempunyai ruang yang besar dalam hidup kita. Manusia disuruh takut melakukan dosa. Namun jangan kecewa jika tersilap. Di samping insan juga hendaklah selalu beringat, bahawa dosa yang terlampau setelah diberi peringatan, boleh menghilangkan ingatan insan untuk kembali kepada Tuhan.
Firman Allah dalam surah al-Baqarah ayat 6-7: (maksudnya) Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang ingkar itu, sama sahaja kepada mereka: Sama ada engkau beri amaran kepadanya atau engkau tidak beri amaran, mereka tidak akan beriman. (Dengan sebab keingkaran mereka), Allah mematerikan atas hati mereka, pendengaran mereka, dan pada penglihatan mereka ada penutupnya; dan bagi mereka pula disediakan azab seksa yang amat besar.
- DR. MOHD. ASRI ZAINUL ABIDIN ialah Mufti Kerajaan Negeri Perlis.
E-mel: moasriza@yahoo.com
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April 10th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
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April 10th, 2008 at 1:22 pm
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April 10th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
Assalammu’alaikum w.b.t.
To Puan Halimahton and family,
This world is just a temporary place where ‘ akhirat’ is actually a permanent, forever and infinity place that we are destined to stay one day, sooner or later. No matter how stupid, moderate, clever, outstanding and genius people are, these things are only something what Allah s.w.t. will just simply give to us to seek whether we appreciate ( bersyukur ) it or not.
Sometimes, we are too busy focusing on one thing and might overlook the other important aspects of life. What I mean here is , in order to success both ; dunia and akhirat we need to balance our ways of life. If you chase akhirat so this world is going to be yours.. but if akhirat is neglected then just wait for the worst punishment from Allah s.w.t.
I feel very sad and shocked upon hearing about Sufiah but it is NEVER too late for her to reverse and out from under. I am positively sure that she can make it, and be strong and patient. Please help her before it is too late. Altogether we pray to Allah s.w.t. and may Allah s.w.t. bless you and your family.
Please guide us ya Allah… Allahuakbar !!!
Wassalam.
April 10th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
Assalammualaikum Cik Zainal,
Terima kasih. Saya rasa terharu apabila mufti Perlis sudi memberi perhatian kepada keluarga ini.
Sedikit sebanyak hilanglah sedikit rasa duka di hati Pn. Halimahton dan anak2nya.
Pn. Halimahton, saya berdoa agar Sufiah kembali ke pangkal jalan Allah. Saya pasti Sufiah akan kembali ke pangkuan keluarga… Allah itu Maha Besar… Maha Mengetahui.. Setiap apa yang berlaku pasti ada hikmah tersembunyi. Dan seperti menurut mufti Perlis, Jalan Pulang Ke Pangkuan Allah Sangat Luas….
April 10th, 2008 at 2:19 pm
Bagusnya kalau Sufiah baca tulisan Ustaz Asri tu..harap dapat habiskan,walaupun sedikit panjang.Perihatinnya tuan mufti! Tapi musykilnya, Sufiah ni tahu BM tak???
Puan pun bagi respon sikit.
April 10th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
takpela… kalau Sufiah x faham….Sekurang2nya ada sedikit rasa tenteram di hati Pn Halimahton.
Tapi kalau ada yang prihatin nk translate ke BM, sangat2 dihargai..
Sufiah pun boleh faham dengan jelas mesej tu.
April 10th, 2008 at 2:37 pm
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April 10th, 2008 at 2:42 pm
Puan Halimahton,
kami semua sentiasa mendoakan semoga puan sekeluarga diberikan kekuatan rohani dan jasmani oleh Allah SWT dalam menghadapi saat saat genting dan getir ini. Allah sentiasa bersama puan dan keluarga. Berdoalah banyak banyak kerana doa ibu kepada anaknya InsyaAllah akan dapat membuka hati si anak untuk kembali kepangkal jalan.
April 10th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
may god bless your family,i pray for your family happines.
April 10th, 2008 at 3:48 pm
Assalamuailaikum w.b.t…
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April 10th, 2008 at 5:15 pm
nak buat macam maner…dah dia pilih jalan cam tu…harap dia sedar la apa yang dia tengah lakukan tu..
April 10th, 2008 at 7:20 pm
Dear Puan Halimah ,
Saya juga berasal dari Malaysia dan sudah hampir 25 tahun tinggal di Jerman, sebenar saya tidak terperanjat dengan berita mengenai Sufiah.
Cuma saya ingin memaklumkan mereka di Malaysia pada pendapat saya Sufiah di lahir dan di besarkan di England jadi cara fikirannya jauh berbeza dengan saudara dan saudari di Malaysia .
April 10th, 2008 at 8:23 pm
SALAM,UJIAN ALLAH UNTUK KITA ORANG ISLAM BUKAN TANDA ALLAH TAK PEDULIKAN KITA ATAS MANA2 KESILAPAN YANG KITA LAKUKAN,TETAPI KERANA KASIH NYA ALLAH MEMEBRIKAN KITA PELUANG UNTUK MENILAI TINGKATAN SYURGA MANA SEBENARNYA YANG KITA MAHUKAN DARIPADA NYA JIKA KITA TAHU TINGKATAN MANA PULA IMAN KITA.
SABARLAH,APA YANG TERJADI BUKAN MEMBERI KESAN PADA MINORITI SAJA,TAPI KITA MAJORITI TURUT TERKESAN DAN TETAP AKAN MENYOKONG DENGAN DOA,INSYA ALLAH.
DAN DUNIA INI BUKAN SEMUA DARIPADA CINTA ALLAH UNTUK KITA
DAN SYURGA BUKAN SEBESAR KURNIAAN UNTUK KITA
CINTA ALLAH ITU LAH YANG SEBENARNYA
ISLAM AGAMA KU
SUFIAH KAMI DOAKAN KAMU
April 11th, 2008 at 12:04 am
Salam,
Saya tersentuh hati mengikuti perkembangan yang berlaku. Sebagai orang luar mungkin ramai yang tidak tahu kedudukan sebenar …walau pun begitu saya percaya ramai masyarakat Islam bersama-sama mendoakan agar pintu hati Sufiah akan turut terbuka untuk kembali ke pangkal jalan. Sebenarnya Allah ingin menduga hambanya.. dan hamba itu adalah hamba yang terpilih dengan ujian getir ini… Puan Halimahtun tidak keseorangan… banyak-banyak bersabar dan berdoa…Doa seorang ibu lebih dimakbulkan!! Sedikit sebanyak kesedihan Puan dapat saya selami walaupun ujian yang saya terima adalah berbeza… Jiwa kita mesti kuat Puan… Semoga keluarga Puan tabah serta dilindungi Allah hendaknya. Amin
Puan Lina
April 11th, 2008 at 1:39 am
Puan Halimatun..
Setiap hamba Allah akan diuji olehNya. Tabahkan hati, redha dengan dugaan ini, keep on praying…Saya dan keluarga mendoakan kesejahteraan keluarga Puan serta berharap agar sinar akan kembali menyinari hidup Puan sekeluarga.
April 11th, 2008 at 1:45 am
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April 11th, 2008 at 1:50 am
Assalamualaikum.
Kak Halimah.
First of all I would like to express my deepest sympathy with what you and your family are going through. Thank you for coming up with this blog to clarify the truth.
Even an outsider, I find this to be heart-breaking, what more you as the mother who has to go through all this negative publicity.
I pray that Allah will grant you patience and strength to face this trial. May Sufiah be guided to the right path. May all of us stay in the right path. Ameen.
April 11th, 2008 at 3:16 am
Assalamualaikum puan halimatun…
Saya amat terkejut dgn berita tentang sufiah. Walaubagaimanapun..
sbagaimana yg dimaklumi, kita sbg insan tidak akn dpt lari dr melakukan kesilapan. Apa yang penting..kita mesti sentiasa berdoa agar diberikan hidayah utk sentiasa kembali ke jalan yg benar..jalan ALLAH. Mungkin ini adalah ujian yg plg besar utk puan dan kluarga lebih2 lagi sufiah. Diharap sufiah sedar dan akan kembali ke pangkuan keluarga dan ajaran islam yg sebenar. Insyaalah.
Sy juga berdoa agar sentiasa diberikan cahaya keimanan dan hidayah kepada saya agar sy mati dalam keadaan beriman kepada ALLAH SWT.Begitu juga harapan saya utk keluarga tersayang dan seluruh umat nabi MUHAMMAD.
April 11th, 2008 at 3:23 am
Assalamu’alaykum waRahmatuLlah.. semoga akak tabah dalam menghadapi ujian yang bertimpa-timpa. semoga keluarga kakak dipayungi rahmat dan redha ALlah SWT.semoga segala ini semua adalah kifarah atas dosa kita semua. semoga ALlah SWT memberi kekuatan kepada akak dan anak2, diberi petunjuk dan hidayah kepada anakanda Sufiah agar mencari kebenaran dan kembali kepada Sufiah yg bersama akak dahulu. Semoga pengalaman ini dijadikan panduan untuk kehidupan kita yang lebih baik, bahagia dunya dan akhirat. Pertingkatkan ilmu, amal kita.. dan sentiasa jangan putus asa dengan rahmat ALlah SWT. ingatlah dunia sementara ini hanya tempat ujian, berjaya kita menempuhinya dgn kesabaran dan tawakal, bahagia kembali kpd ALlah SWT. WALlahu’alam.
p.s. kak jika ada ruang masa, boleh email untuk tips bab penjagaan dan didikan kpd anak2. terima kasih.. & wassalamu’alaykum
ahl khair
April 11th, 2008 at 3:29 am
Salam Pn. Halimah, sedih dah simpati itulah perasaan saya apabila mendapat tahu berita mengenai Sufiah, doa, sembahyang hajat, berpuasa, insyaallah dengan Rahmat Allah swt Sufiah akan kembali ke pangkal jalan dalam mengamalkan cara hidup Islam, doa dari seorang ibu adalah sebaik-baik doa untuk setiap anak2nya…tabahkan hati kuatkan semangat
for Sufiah, the thing you’ve done is not a genius thing, ISLAM is the way of LIFE
for brothers and sisters of Sufiah, this is the time to show your love to your mum and family, dont leave your mum behind during in this hard time situation
ALLAH BLESS ALL OF U!!
April 11th, 2008 at 3:55 am
Halimahton,
You have been a very patient person,most of us would probably have been more angry at this and maybe even lost our grip on our priorities,
May Allah be with you and keep that strong heart of yours going.
Your children are lucky to have you as their mother
I pray that Sufiah will come back to you and your family will be one again…
April 11th, 2008 at 4:12 am
Salam Pn Halimaton and Family,
Alhamdulillah, you and family have decided to counter the rubbish in the English media in a most intelligent manner. I am happy to read the truth about your family through this blog. I pray that Allah swt give you and family, especially Sufiah, the strength, courage, sustenance and wisdom to navigate through such trying times. May Allah guide you all to the right path and give you what is best for you in this world and the hereafter.
Wassalam
Zainab AR (mother of six), Singapore
April 11th, 2008 at 4:27 am
To Mdm Halimahton & Family,
My way of expression:
Goodbye Fairytale,Hello Reality
The time has come
My work is done
The end of my fairytale
Reality to come undone
Goodbye is so hard to say
So many things,not many ways
At any time or any day
Without warning,in life dismay
Life goes on
Things will change
Nothing last forever
My life is not a game
Fairytale is a fantasy
Reality is filled with pain
Emotions rush like ecstacy
I am reality,I’ll embrace pain
What you and your family had gone through, i will never be able to understand but my admiration to you and your family for not giving up and to continue your struggle in this confused world, something that i will use to motivate myself in life.
You and your family are inspirator’s. Never Give Up!
April 11th, 2008 at 4:35 am
Dear Kak Halimahtun
Our prayers is that you and your family will go through this test with patience and fortitude. We do not know the mysteries of life and what Allah SWT has in store of us. Deep in my heart (and I dont know why) I felt that you have done your best in the circumstances to raise your beautiful children.
Never give up on Sufiah. Allah SWT is most merciful and forgiving. We all pray that Allah SWT shines “nur” into her heart and reunites with the family that loves her very, very much.
Lastly, great job on the blog!
April 11th, 2008 at 4:58 am
I hope we can stop being a drama queen. Just let Sufiah decide her own way of life. Sooner or later, she will repent. Believe me! There is no such thing as being a hooker for the whole life. The most you can sustain probably in the age of 40s. I heard that Sufiah received quite a lot of money out of the prostitution job. So let us pray that she will use that money wisely for her own benefit, maybe to fund her phd project or other educational or charity works. If I were you guys, I won’t waste my time helping others in overseas for the sake of being brothers and sisters of Muslim. I have many more people in my compound here who needs a lot of helps. Just look in Malaysia itself, how many students in IPTA became a hooker just to fund their education? See also how many young girls selling their virgins on the streets just for the sake of survival? How about poor people who desperately needs cash, opt for prostitution to buy a life? No need to mention hookers lah…. there are lots and lots of poor people out there in Malaysia need our help, who has the same nationality as them. Some cannot afford to school their children, some send their children for adoption… can’t you guys see that? If you can’t, I don’t know whatelse to say…
April 11th, 2008 at 5:19 am
drpd ALLAH kita dijadikan,
kepada ALLAH kita dikembalikan…
April 11th, 2008 at 6:15 am
Puan Halimah..
berdoa & teguhkan hati selalu..
harap puan ignore je lah semua komen2 yang menyakitkan hati tuu…
selagi bukan anak beranak dia sendiri yang kena…selagi itu lah seronok nak menyakitkan hati orang lain.biasa lah tuu…..
Allah bersama2 dengan orang yang sabar.
sy sentiasa mendoakan kesejahteraan puan sekeluarga..
Moga ujian ini makin mendekatkan diri kita pada Yg Maha Pencipta.
April 11th, 2008 at 7:06 am
Assalamualaikum Pn Halimah….
Semoga sabar dan terus berdoa agar sufiah kembali semula ke jalan yang benar….Allah sentiasa bersama-sama org yg sabar…
Sufiah….sedarlah apa yang kau dah lakukan….tak kesian ke pada ibu mu yang telah membesarkan mu…..hargai lah pengorbanan dia bukan dengan mencontengkan arang kat muka ibumu…..kalau tak de perasaan kesian pada ibumu…at least kesian la pada dirimu mu sendiri….
Puan halimah…saya sentiasa mendoakan kesejateraan puan bersama sama anak-anak puan yang lain.
April 11th, 2008 at 7:27 am
Assalamu alaikum, may Allah swt shower with patience in this challenging time. Allah promises in the Quran to the believer ”So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief” Surah 94:5-6.
Therefore I hope you continue to be patient and steadfast on the Truth. Our prayers are with your family! May Allah guide our sister Sufiah to Islam soon. Ameen.
Wassalam.
April 11th, 2008 at 7:44 am
Assalamualaikum wbt.
I have my utmost respect to this family. Albeit it is seemingly in tatters, the family members have demonstrated composure & equanimity in this crucial moment.
Believe.
Believe like nothing else that Allah is always with us. And you’ll be fine.
Believe.
April 11th, 2008 at 9:26 am
Assalamualaikum Pn. Halimahton. Saya amat terharu dan empati di atas apa yang berlaku terhadap keluarga puan. Sejak tersiar berita tentang anak pintar puan, Sufiah saya terkedu seketika tak dapat menerima perkhabaran sebegitu. Memang dugaan sebagai umat Islam amat besar, mungkin juga ada yang irihati dengan kejayaan umat Islam sehingga Sufiah menerima nasib begitu. Saya tidak putus-putus bangun solat hajat di sepertiga malam dan tak henti-henti mendoakan kpd Alllah s.w.t. agar Sufiah segera kembali ke pangkal jalan dan kembali ke pangkuan puan dalam waktu terdekat. InsyaAllah Sufiah akan segera menjadi muslimat sejati seperti sebelum ini. Allah lebih berkuasa daripada segalanya. Good Will Always Triumph Over Evil. Salam dari saya di Kota Bharu, Kelantan.
April 11th, 2008 at 9:53 am
semoga keluarga Puan Halimaton sentiasa sejahtera di bawah lindungan Allah yg Maha Esa … semoga semuanya kembali baik semula ..
we malaysian support and pray for you .. be strong and hope Sufiah will come back
April 11th, 2008 at 10:53 am
Salam and hai semua….
Sy baru bace blog nie..saya sedih and terharu..terngadah saya kejap bila teringat yg pengorbanan ibu ni besar nyer tak terkire…..kadang2 kita sebagai anak lupa jasa ibu yang membesarkan kita…kita merajuk dgn mama…marah mak….kadang2 ada yg naik suara dgn umi….tapi ibu tetap mencintai kita….itulah sucinya kasih seorg ibu,mummy,mom…….
Untuk pn Halimaton… Sy doakan pn sentiase tabah dan sabar sebab mama slalu ajar saya ape yg berlaku ade hikmah…doa saya akan sentiase bersama puan…insyaALLAH
To you kak sufiah…even I dont know you well and u dont know me, but I hope at least u will think what I will ask and said to you… Do appreciate ur mom and go back to her…Please…Your mom is waiting for you… Your mom can’t be replaced by any of people in the world and also at AKHIRAT… Please come back to the right path which is to ALLAH s.w.t….
I will pray for you to come back to ALLAH…..
Please remember, all Muslims will pray for you….
April 11th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
salam Puan…
setipa manusia trutama ibu bapa ada melakukan kesalahan…begitulah juga dgn Puan dan suami dlm mmbesarkan anak2….
Puan harus akui kesilapan dan kesalahan dalam mendidik n mmbesarkan sufiah sehingga dia trgamak menjadi pelacur….
jadikan ini pengajaran dalam mendidik anak pada masa akan datang..
apa guna bijak dan popular jk membuat keputusan yang salah?
fikir2kan..buang teori yg salah,didikan yang trpesong dan gali quran dan hadis dalam membesarkan anak2….
moga apa yg brlaku pada sufiah tidak akan berulang pada mana2 anak puan….
tabah dan sabar,doa dan tawakal moga sufiah kembali ke pangkal jalan dan betaubat nasuha…
dan Puan juga perlu akui kesilapan Puan….
April 11th, 2008 at 12:10 pm
As of Friday, 11 April 2008, 7:00pm
Sad to say, but for now, Sufiah has surely earn a one way ticket to hell. For future progress, I don’t know. But for now, for today, it’s a confirm ticket. It all depends on what she does next and in future to earn her permanent place in afterlife. Or does she need convincing for existence after death? From this university of life, please get a PhD (permanent heaven definitely!!)
Math of your everyday labor:
sin + sin = 2 sins
sin + good = 6 goods
good + good = 14 goods
You will reap what you sow.
So many views and opinion in this page. Some give good advice; some are just luminaries, brilliant advices. But, some people grow complacent and less strict in their opposing act.
Life goes on. No matter what you do or did. Life goes on, even long after we leave our body.
It would be hard to stop the things that you tried and feel wonderful out of it. Forget right or wrong, it’s so wonderful and you get money out of it. The sweetness of life and joyful of sin. It’s a different kind of poison that is so sweet and wonderful. The remedy is around but I don’t think you feel the urgency to grab forth towards it. Or even worst, you might not realize that your soul is being robbed away from your conscience, being darken every minutes of your thirst for your addiction. This might be a long journey of ’sweet dreams’ for you, before you really wake up.
Whatever you tried, will form cell structures in our brain memory, long term or short term. It always triggers your reward region, and you might forever ‘addicted’ to it. It will attach your love and dependency on it. It might continue to haunt you forever, as nightmare or wonderful experience, depend on your perspective in life.
You think this is love and your solace from grief. And by time, you become at ease with it and a norm to you. A public ‘wife’ to a paying ‘husband’s.
Most people is very optimistic and hopeful, with their advises and thoughts. It’s good to hope, but to me, it’s just a dream to hope without your action. It’s an actual math at work; you add more sin, your left sin book register more content. If you counter by doing more good deeds, your right book of good deeds would register more content to counter the weight of your left book. In the end, it would finally be the sum of all deeds. An actual math at works. Just bare in mind, the original faith that you inherited from your family, consider adultery as among major sin. So, a big weight for your left book.
We from far, just able to hope that you see and someday understand. It would be you to do and to don’t. You feed your hunger and grow your sexual appetite, your will be drawn into it much deeper, with the sense of sweet, wonderful and satisfaction. You exercise and “turn-ON” your sexual organ in a way that would not benefit you in long term. It would turn you into addiction and then obsession. To me, that is a don’t.
What ever happened, life will goes on. Hope you find back the true light, and if someday it finds you, don’t hesitate to open the door and enter. I am much worry about my place in afterlife. Take care Sufiah, for your last destination is more rewarding than the most most most satisfying experience in this life (or the other experience in hell).
When you grow much older, you will see that time does move much faster. And in afterlife, it’s just a blink of the eye.
Dear mom, what to do, she has shun and be far from you. Keep on trying and have faith, don’t ever be broken down and regret, your love will save your children.
Free speech and democracy, well, here’s my version:
Minnah ‘Aqilah “maybe that’s the way Allah want to teach her about this life , or maybe that’s what she need to go trough 1st before she found the right path with a convincing way for her . Everybody have their own way of life”
It’s Sufiah choosing, not Allah’s will to teach her prostitution to know about this life. If she needs to go through 1st, it would be her second, third and become her normal life. It’s hard to get rid of your everyday habits. Its us to define what is normal based from what we have learn from our faith, and broadcast it for next generation to be affirm and follow. “Everybody have their own way of life”, sounds confusing to my children to understand if we say gay marriage is OK, or Sufiah a muslimah can be a prostitute to work.
Shilpa Lee “Be strong and just let Sufiah decided her own way of life. Sometimes being a sinner doesn’t mean we’re not saint. Suffiah loved the job, so we need to respect her for that. Who are we to talk to her about what’s good and what’s bad.”
Yeah, be happy and go lucky. Another broadcaster to confuse what is not allowed, and what is allowed in Islam. By your nickname, sounds Nepali Chinese?? Sufiah is a muslimah, or probably non practicing muslimah (?) She insults true believers in Islam by doing major sin of adultery. We are obliged to talk to her, advising her to repent for her sin, and this is not beneficial for her faith, and to tell others (broadcast) that this is wrong in our religion. If she is not in Islam, then what about Sufiah?? Let her be what she wants to be.
Lutte “she must hv reasons why she’s doin that..”
Lust, money, satisfaction of sex.
Excellent question Rosita!!
Zuhairah “Things happen for a reason and I believe there is hikmah in every incident”
What other reason it is Zuhairah? Freedom from parents (free from rules), sexual satisfaction without boundaries, lots of money, companionship, lust. This incident is a hikmah for others to learn and avoid. Intelligent is not everything.
Zainal, you care and it count. However, it’s long and textbook styled. I think it’s a disconnect to her way of thinking and chosen life.
Hambali_2008 and Taqiyuddin, thanks for your insight.
Kambing “nak buat macam maner…dah dia pilih jalan cam tu…”
Buat apa yang boleh, iaitu pelajari, teladani, sebarkan kebaikan dan tanamkan perasaan untuk meninggikan akhlak (agama) pada diri, keluarga, dan anak-anak. Tanpa akhlak, kepandaian hanyalah alat tunggangan nafsu kita. Bijak menipu, organize crime, elusive serial killer, etc.
MAL, I think you have a dark heart.
Shilpa Lee “I hope we can stop being a drama queen. Just let Sufiah decide her own way of life. Sooner or later, she will repent. Believe me!”
Believe you? Do I know you? Sounds manipulative and so complacent with your faith. What is your faith? I don’t know you. Islam, Christian and Jewish forbid adultery. If we let her decided to be a prostitute, even though its her best and good job, we let her fail in the afterlife. What is good of a future repent if your whole life is a sinner, what kind of portfolio does you representing in the court of the great judgment? And practice makes perfect and really stubborn habit to remove. Believe me! If we even can whisper to Sufiah, we should advise her to listen to 6 billion of her sisters and brothers. Take the straight path, don’t let be in astray. If we can’t, we should take lesson from it and take reference for drawing some limits to adventurous young minds.
April 11th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
We plan,God decides, he is the most forgiving & compassionate.As Malays, we have been thought many kid stories when we were small.Remember the story abt a hooker on the way back home encountered a dog dying of thirst.She removed her sandal and went down a well to get the water for the dog.The dog survived after drinking the water from her sandal and meanwhile she passed away soon after.God placed her soul among whom he loves in heaven.Every being has the sakinah in it and eventually it will prevails, if only it does not give up or loose hope.
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April 11th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
kenapa semua sibok membicangkan soal Sufiah, 1 billion pendududk di dunia ini hidup kurang dari $US 1 sehari? saya tak kisah sekurang-kurang Sufiah mempunyai tempat tinggal dan makanan yang enak.Saya tidak kasihan apa yang Sufiah lakukan, tapi di sudut hati saya memikirkan berjuta-juta kanak di dunia ini hidup di dalam kekebuluran.
April 11th, 2008 at 4:48 pm
Dear madam,
I feel sorry about your daughter, Sufiah. I hope u now in storng condition accepting the path taht choose buy Sufiah. But, we have Allah dan you can pray to Allah to make Sufiah come back to your home. Madam, you can do solat hajat and tahajjud in midnight and request from God to bring back Sufiah.
So, did you have in mind to come back to Malaysia and settle down in Malaysia and spread yor leraning method to Malaysian.
April 11th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
Hmm. Awak boleh cakap bahsa melayu atau tidak?
April 11th, 2008 at 6:00 pm
biar kan lah sufiah jual pussy dia…tak payah tolong…ramai lagi org kat malaysia ni perlu ditolong….sufiah buat kenyataan macam tak bersalah…lagi menyakitkan hati….elok kamu mati sebelum mambazir masa, tenaga dan wang org lain…
April 11th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
sufiah’s not intelligent, she’s totally stupid whore..hahahaha
April 11th, 2008 at 7:56 pm
#A touch of difficulty gives a little muscle to life — provied we have the backbone to meet it.
#A sharp mind and a sharp tongue seldom go together. The tongue like a sharp knife; it kills without drawing blood.
#You are poorer when your only wealth is money. Who loses money, loses much; who loses a friend, loses much more; who loses faith, loses all.
#Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
#Dieses ist über Yusof familie. Die tat wirkt mächtiger als das wort.
April 11th, 2008 at 8:09 pm
My highest praise to the Yusof Family for putting up this blog. You have done the most correct thing to diffuse the confusion. I will help to spread this website.
I salute you Puan Halimaton. I have 5 children of my own and have gone through a difficult path myself. The family pictures you put up here give a clear testimony of these children upbringing environment. Some of these pictures looked almost similar to some of my children childhood pictures. Hence I know, the kind of environment your children had. I can almost testify that your children have not gone through the hard opperasive environment as portrayed previously in the mass media. You are a good mother and have provided them with a good healthy nurturing environment. Your own good nature (IQ) and nurture have contributed much to their intelligent apart from they own self-driven motivation. Maha Allah, they are very intelligent.
As for Sufiah, she is obviously very “angry” and in confusion decides to change her frame of reference to one which is devoid of any moral value. In this new transformed frame, of course her arguments appear valid as in her “confession”. But at some stage (inshaAllah and we all pray for her), when she realises the rationale and value of morality itself, she will retransformed, God wills it. Inteligent girl like her knows the correct and wise solution.
Dear Sufiah, money, wealth and sex are not the only pleasures in life and certainly these do not last. Love and espcially a mother’s love is ever lasting. You will soon find out that you need love… some day. When that time come (I hope it will be soon), go home to your mother and sibblings. They are ever waiting for you, dear sweet girl. I will wait for you too in my prayer.
April 12th, 2008 at 2:11 am
Halimahton, after we’ve gone thru your family’s blog than only we realised that you are actually the one who should be hailed as the star. So far we thought that Farooq was the man behind this great success for your kids.
We pray to the almighty that your daughter Sufiah, will change her mind to look back to what had happened to her and be blessed from the most merciful Allah. To Sufiah….plz go back to where you belong. Have pity for your mum who had raised you, love you and turn you into a GENIUS.
Be a good daughter and show that you are a good muslim too. God is great…!!!!!!Amin.
April 12th, 2008 at 7:32 am
sufiah masih boleh diselamatkan…
insyaAllah doa rakyat malaysia ada bersama anda sekeluarga…
sufiah perlu diyakinkan bahwa islam, anda dan keluarga, dan rakyat malaysia masih terbuka untuk menerima dia kembali…
April 12th, 2008 at 8:12 am
Makcik Halimahton, u’ve been a good mother all this while, so don’t blame yourself because of Sufiah’s matters, this is just a trial from Allah, u deserve better undoubtedly, it’s just sad seeing someone so bright but doesn’t use the gift well…may always under Allah’s blessings.
April 12th, 2008 at 10:13 am
Dear Mdm Halimahton and Family,
Do not despair… Allah sentiasa bersama orang2 yang sabar! Look on the brighter side of life, whatever that happened may be a blessing in disguise. Insya’allah, one day Sufiah will be a better person as a result of her experiences in life. Let us all pray for her betterment.
April 12th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Puan H dan keluarga,
Moga diberi seribu ketabahan dan kesabaran. May God Bless you always.
April 12th, 2008 at 1:13 pm
Salam, buat Puan Halimahton dan keluarga, diharapkan sentiasa dlm pemeliharaan Allah S.W.T. In my point of view, isu sufiah sengaja diperbesarkan oleh pihak tertentu utk memburukkan imej umat Islam itu sendiri, moga2 Allah S.W.T akan mencampakkan hidayah ke dalam hati sufiah. tabahkan hati, kuatkan iman, bykkan doa krn doa seorang ibu adalah antara darjat doa yg plg mudah dimaqbulkan. Serta ingatlah, dlm berdoa itu, tingkatkan taqwa dan iman kerana org yg beriman dan bertaqwa itu lbh mudah diterima doanya. Saya doakan moga2 Allah S.W.T. merahmati dan memudahkan segala urusan keluarga puan. it’s very nice of you guys to put up this website to correct all the misconceptions.
April 12th, 2008 at 2:21 pm
ZAID’S REMARKS
Encik Zaid, I concur wholeheartedly with your story of kindness. Only Allah SWT decides who will enter Al-Jannah. It was with this in mind that I hold to the belief of The AlMighty as Most Beneficent and Most Merciful.
APPEAL TO ALL FOR DECORUM WHEN POSTING COMMENTS
I have also noticed a number of unkind remarks posted since 10th April. I appeal to those who write in to express themselves in a more mature manner as the main intention of this blog is to contribute positively to the family.
PESANAN IKHLAS KEPADA PENULIS-PENULIS KOMEN
Saya amat berharap sesiapa yang menyumbang pandangan mereka di dalam blog ini menggunakan bahasa yang baik dan menulis dengan cara yang matang.
Keluarga Puan Halimahton amat memerlukan sokongan positif dari kami semua dan adalah tanggungjawab kami untuk memastikan keadaan tidak bertambah buruk dengan penulisan yang kurang sensitif .
Ribuan terima kasih di atas kerjasama saudara saudari sekalian.
April 12th, 2008 at 3:03 pm
Assalamualaikum W.B.T..
Pn Halimahton,please be strong for whatever happened to Sufiah. You’ve been such a great mother to your kids and there is hikmah for everything that happened. For very sure in life, everyone will go through ups and down. Pray for Allah and always do Solat Hajat. I feel strongly that Sufiah will get back to your family,maybe not for the right now, but in time. Insyaallah.
April 12th, 2008 at 4:06 pm
May Allah gives light to Sufiah to go back to the right path… Please Sufiah, use ur intelligence in math by calculate your sins and deeds. May Allah forgive u from what u did…
~pls visit Seni Gayung Fatani at UWIC, Cardiff, UK http://www.uwicsu.co.uk/silat
– budaya Melayu Islam kini berkembang di UK, namun yg menyertai kelab silat di sana hanya student dari UK, India, Mongolia yg sedang membuat PhD, Master.. org Melayu tiada & memperlekehkan kelab ini, mungkin ini sebab kebykan org Melayu di sana mula rosak..
April 12th, 2008 at 6:25 pm
Salam Pn Halimahton.Saya telah mengikuti kisah keluarga puan semenjak Sufiah masih keci kecil , datang ke Malaysia dan mendapat bisiswa sime darby , saya percaya puan telah berusaha sebaik mungkin sebagai seorang ibu , namun kadang kala kita perlu menoleh kejayaan seorang anak atas keimanannya dan ketaqwaannya barulah yang kedua adalah kejayaan dunianya.Semoga Pn masih menerima Sufiah kerana sekalipun siapa dirinya dia lahir dari rahim Pn jua , mana mungkin seorang ibu melempar anaknya ke dalam ” neraka ” kan? sebab kesakitan semasa melahirkan hanya yang bergelar ibu dapat rasakan kesakitan. Namun, apapun yg Pn lalui saya berdoa diberi kekuatan.Marilah sama sama kita insafi bahawa setiap kehidupan manusia ujiannya berbeza,namunpersoalannya bagaimana kita mengatasinya.Kepada Sufiah ,masih ada jalan seandai kembali ke pangkal jalan,kembali kepada Islam kerana itu jua segala penyelesaian.Ubat jiwa adalah Quran , ubat cinta adalah bangun di tengah malam,
yang kerdil
April 12th, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Salam..kpd keluarga sufiah,sy hrp anda semua bersabar dgn ujian Allah ini..
InsyaAllah,Sufiah pasti akn kembali ke jln yg diredhai oleh Allah satu ms nnti..kami rakyat malaysia akn sentiasa mendoakan agar sufiah kembali ke jln yg benar..
April 12th, 2008 at 9:59 pm
assalamualaikum, kak halimahton… sekeluarga. saya merasa amat terharu melihat gambar2 lama anak2 akak semasa kecil. dari gambar 2 kesemua mereka amat ceria dan gembira,tidak seperti yang digambarkan media. Org ramai tidak layak menghukum family kakak. Saya berdoa agar akak dan anak2 bahagia dan lupakan kisah lalu. dan semoga adik sufiah kembali ke pangkal jalan .
jangan sedih kak. entah kenapa naluri saya merasa sedih melihat gambar keluarga kakak. umpama saya turut berada besama kakak . dapat saya bayangkan hati dan jiwa kakak. tabah ye kak halimahton.tabah kan hatimu.banyak kan berdoa utk sufiah. doa ibu dimakbulkan allah.
sufiah, kembali lah ke pangkuan keluarga. walau jauh kita pergi, akhir nya keluarga jua yg akan membantu kita dan membimbing kita. buang semua kebencian dalam dirimu. bersabar dgn dugaan. semua kenikmatan hanya dikecapi sementara saja. kami sayang sufiah…
April 12th, 2008 at 10:37 pm
Saya juga hairan
April 13th, 2008 at 5:26 am
THE WORLD IS FULL OF KINGS AND QUEENS.
WHO BLIND YOUR EYES AND STEAL YOUR DREAMS,
ITS HEAVEN AND HELL!
April 13th, 2008 at 6:03 am
Assalamu Alaik
Cik Halimah sekeluarga moga2 dibawah lindungan Allah.
Segala nya yang terjadi memang sudah tertulis oleh Allah yang maha kuasa cuma tugas anda seberapa boleh mengembalikan Suffiah ke jalan Allah,baik buruk beliau juga adal darah daging anda bersabarlah sesungguhnya Allah bersama2 orang2 yang sabar.
Jangan Bersedih LA TAHZAN.
Singapore
April 13th, 2008 at 6:16 am
assalammualaikum kak halimah dan anak-anak..
Perasaan kakak sebagai ibu tentu tak pernah berhenti mengharapkan petunjuk Allah yg Maha Pengasih untuk anak kakak dan doa saya juga agar diperkenankan Nya.
Blog ini membuatkan saya faham cerita sebenar yang telah dilalui oleh anak-anak keluarga Yusuf. Cara pendekatan ini telah membuka fikiran ramai termasuklah saya tentang apa yg berlaku, berlainan dari yang pernah digambarkan media sebelum ini.
Saya percaya kasih ibu itu tiada bersyarat; walau apapun yang anak lakukan kita akan terus mengharapkan petunjuk sampai kepanya.
Doa saya sentiasa ada bersama kakak dan anak-anak.
Wassalam
April 13th, 2008 at 9:03 am
Dear K. Halimah,
Be patient & pray to Allah, just remember HE loves U & all of us deeply.
Itu hanyalah satu Ujian dariNya ..
April 13th, 2008 at 11:09 am
May allah bless this family with happiness and prosperity!
April 13th, 2008 at 12:19 pm
wat the heck mr Noname!find sumwhere else to giv dammed comment which is not appreciated here..
April 13th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
Dear Noname,
I think you are sick and you need help; you need guidance. All actions are recorded and will be played second by seconds later on big screen for all mankind to see and be known. Remember! all of us will stand one-to-one with God in the great Day of Judgment. Its foolishness to wish for destruction. You ask for prostitution service, and you pay RM$$$ to get your big sin, it’s a double loss.
Have all the ‘hot videos’ you watched throughout the years, been a good teacher for you? has it turn you into sexual machine that is a slave to your desire. Legitimate channel is not good to you? eventhough you could marry 4 wives??? Public ‘wife’ is illigitimate channel to channel all your sexual desire, she has no compassion and love for you, its just business. She wont take care of you when you turn old and helpless. Public ‘wife’ is a scandal that can hinder your high position in politics and in society. A black mail that is yet to happen, a black memory that will shield you from the light.
Psychologically, you just an ignorant person, because you ignore the purpose of yusof family creating this blog, for sure not as a tool for advancement of your sexual appetite. You are selfish to put strongly your own sexual desire in a family blog. Where is your moral compass? You are so low! and lost in your lust! Is your parent proud of you when they know what you write? Your religion is sex! Will your mother, sisters and daughters be save under your umbrella? All things that look beautiful and young, will one day turn old and sour. Is earth created for your unlimited joy and feast forever? Paradise on earth? Or will you wake up realizing the shell of your soul is infected with HIV/AIDS virus, Herpes, Hepatitis, HPV cancer, Syphilis, etc? And need to depart soon, what ticket have you bought? Think man! Where is the great invention that you could have design to ease humankind from transportation woes? Where is your great plan to save poor country from war, hunger and depression? How to improve the life of others? Ask a different question. Not for a wrong reason, but for a right one!! People will remember your name, and not somebody as noname..
April 13th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
to the yusof family……
I hope that cik halimaton to be strong and continue to support her children.
as for sufiah we all muslim peeps will be praying for her…
may allah s.w.t be with you always. amin
April 13th, 2008 at 2:49 pm
dear iskander,
i hope that u’ll create the WAP blog too so people who use handphone @ celullar can contribute their opinion to your mobile blog & not just online 1 as nowadays people tend to use 3G or GPRS at least.
very easy to create. just go to http://tagtag.com asap & it’s FREE 2!
b4 i’m leaving, plz do a MALAY version to your current family blog due to majority of malaysia still not really understand what u’ve said. i think malay in UK will help u esp. the student there @ malay association.
best regards,
from KSMU
RUSSIA
April 13th, 2008 at 3:28 pm
Ende gut, alles gut
April 13th, 2008 at 5:15 pm
setiap penyakit ada ubatnya
setiap permasaalahan ada jalan kelaur nya.
have faith in Allah.
hidup memang penuh dugaan.
everyone goes thru it.
April 13th, 2008 at 5:26 pm
ASSALAMUALAIKUM….
salam sejahtera…
buat aunt halimahton and family…
saya antara masyarakat malaysia yg lain akan sentiasa mendoakan kesejahteraan keluarga aunt halimah…serta keterbukaan hati kak sufiah untuk mendapat hidayah ALLAH…walaupun tak dapat nak contribute apa2, tapi saya harap doa yg saya berikan (serta mereka yg lainnya), INSYA-ALLAH, termakbul…
interesting jugak cara pengajaran dan pembelajaran yg dibuat.kalau boleh, nak jugak saya pelajari…harap-harap, aunt tak kisah…. =)
kita nih manusia, mmg benar manusia merancang, ALLAH sahaja yg berkuasa tentukan…tapi tak salah kalau kita berusaha lebih, nasihat lebih dan tegur lebih, asal jangan kita melebih2 sangat sampai melampau. kita nasihat, kita ingatkan orang, tapi segalanya terpulang kepada insan itu sendiri nak buat keputusan…yg penting kita doa dan terus doa….jangan terus menerus nak sangkal atau condamn (betul ke?maaf kalau salah eja…) dalam kes keluarga nih, banyakkan doa….kurangkan teguran atau cadangan yg tak munasabah…
semoga kita semua dirahmati ALLAH, dan semoga pintu taubat masih luas terbuka untuk kita….
salam sayang,
Nur IzzEdah - Kuching, S’wak
dan keluarga Rafa dan Aisha
April 14th, 2008 at 1:55 am
assalamualaikum…to all sufiah’s family…harap bersabar n tabahkan hati bersama kita ALLAH YG MAHA MENGETAHUI SEGALANYA…ujian ini ALLAH datangkan untuk menguji kesabaran ibu sufiah n sufiah sendiri..kami berdoa dan sentiasa berdoa untuk sufiah n family sufiah…insyaallah ALLAH akan mendengar doa orang yg dizalimi…kepada sufiah hatinya masih ada rasa cinta kepada ALLAH n Familynya…inysallah sama-sama doa untuk keselamatan dunia n akhirat diri sufiah family n seluruh umat islam….
April 14th, 2008 at 2:52 am
To Shilpa Lee ;
I stayed in Uk for some time as a visitor; met many imigrant from B/Desh , India - Pak China , Malays , student etc .Honestly i asked some immigrant work as general worker within 6 months they could purchase a still good condition 2nd car ,feed family in their own country and saving .
Same in Malaysia immigrant from indonesia, B/desh could have shop / stall after some times because they focused their intention to work and survive BUT for those who want easy money and enjoy luxury life with limited qualification tHEY BECOME thieves , robber ,prostitute /call girl etc. if the foreigner can get rich in this country WHAT reason you gave is relevant we as the citizen can’t survive our live in the
THINK IT
There are some people / students further study in college / universities without formal studied in formal secondary school and without families support ..bUT THEY still can survive and finish study without immoral part time job .IT depend the intention and the internal self-willing
THINK It
The reason you gave for education fund is nonsense BUT JUST WANT TO LOOK GREAT < LUXURY with easy way and en joyful even it’s fool way of destroying their ownselves.
TO Pn Halimahton keeps weeping to the CREATOR, SUSTAINER, PROVIDER dan THE MOST MERCIFUL . Only HE Can solve our problems .
Our Doa are always with your family and Muslim brothers
Jazakallahu khairaan kathiira
April 14th, 2008 at 3:18 am
Be strong n be with Allah SWT!!
April 14th, 2008 at 5:13 am
assalamu alaykom,
first of all, i would like to say ALLAH with u…with us.
i’m praying for sufiah and your family and all Moslem’s in the world…always!
and plez don’t do it again!
Malaysia is waiting u all!
faculty of medic, UM
April 14th, 2008 at 5:35 am
Assm.
saya pelik mengapa ibubapa sufiah perlu dipersalahkan ke atas apa yang di lakukan oleh anaknya sehingga tercetusnya web ini. Orang kita mmg cepat terpengaruh dan menunding jari kepada ibubapa apabila anak2 buat hal. sufiah sendiri harus bertangungjawab atas tindakannya kerana dia sahaja yang tahu mengapa dia lakukan semua ini. Dari situ dia harus menebus segala kesilapanya.
Walau sejahat manapun ibubapa kita, kita tidak seharusnya memberontak dan melakukan sesuatu yg melanggar ajaran agama. Kisah seorang anak yg mempunyai ibu bapa yahudi ttp masih menghormati dan menyangi mereka harus sufiah jadikan tauladan.
Tidak semua ibubapa yg baik akan melahirkan anak- yang baik. Lihat sahaja Nabi Nuh yg mempunyai anak yg derhaka.
Apa yg perlu dilakukan jangan cari salah siapa kerana ini semua adalah kehendak yg maha Esa oleh itu BERDOA lah agar sufiah kembali ke panggal jalan. Dalam situasi ini famili support adalah apa yg sufiah really needs……..jangan sekali2 abaikan dia…….show your LOVE………….because only LOVE CAN CURE HER. InsyAllah
April 14th, 2008 at 6:14 am
Assalamu’alaikum..
Ya Ayyuhal Muslimun..
Please remember of Allah..
The Khaliq that give our life.
Who are the Creator of us.
So, please Ittaqullah!
Ittaqullah!
Ittaqullah!
If just want to make a negative respond and joke, this is not a suitable time, situation, and place to you. Be serious please!
i just feel shocked with some un-responsibility comment, May Allah show them to the right path of His Way. If no hidayah of them, May Allah destroy them who din’t have a humanity sense in this situation.
O Allah, please forgive us..
Hope Iskender and family can delete the nonsenses responds. Thanks.
April 14th, 2008 at 9:18 am
SAYA SEFAMILY SENTIASA MENDOAKAN PUAN SERTA ANAK-ANAK DALAM SIHAT SELAMAT.SEMOGA ALLAH SEGERA MEMAQBULKAN DOA-DOA PUAN SELAMA INI DAN SUFIAH SEGERA KEMBALI KEPANGKUAN KELUARGA.
April 14th, 2008 at 9:38 am
assalmulaikum auntie halimaton,
I’m Jen from Malaysia. This posting is specially dedicated to sufiah if she reads this. I had some familiar experiences with sufiah..( she’s having problem with her dad). When I was 9 my parent did divorce. Both of them really abused me especially my emotion. My dad just came and went away whenever as he pleased to (he’s totally irresponsible man), meanwhile my mom been in under pressure simply fling off her emotion by being harsh on me for every single day (she did beat, shout, tell me that I was a useless & as much bad as my dad and try to convince me that my dad was a bad guy). So I lived with that kind of situation for 4 years before I continued my study in some boarding school.
Whenever I went home (in school’s break), the same routine kept going. To be very honest I did hate them both so much. So every single day, when I woke up I was thinking how to avoid this kind of situation and tied to think what should I do in order to pay my grunge on them.
To be very honest I was thinking it would be so nice if I could run away from home–just live in the way as I please to, loafing from school to ease my mind, smoking and drinking.
When I was thinking to release the plan, i was thinking…”if i run away from home how come i could go to school?” “If I loaf from school, I will be left behind for the school’s subject? If such kind of situation happen, how I’m going to sit the exam n pass in such flying colors??” “If I smoke and drink, for sure I’ll do that big sin to Allah, and I’m so afraid to his punishment”
When I was thinking what if I fail in the big exam (in that time i will take that exam when I was 12 to qualify me to join the boarding school) I did cancel all the plans. I realized that exam was the only way to start a new better life far away from my dad and my mom. “If I fail for sure that it will prove that my mom’s word (she said that i was a useless person and as bad as my dad)” “If I fail no one will respect me and how I’m going to live in this world with pride?” “they gave me nothing for the love and the only thing that I could do is live in successful and pride”
So, in order to let the plan succeed, I never ever did such thing that could harm myself and ruined the plan. In many times I just had to lock myself in my room to shed the tears and console myself. I only have Allah who could guide me all the way.I was so stressed but I knew that’s the only solution for me. “If I’m out of the plan I will be in the worst place”
Those words in “” are the words that always playing in my mind since I was 9. I was so lucky cuz I could think in that clear since I was that kiddie. Till now on that’s the guide for me to become a successful person.
Alhamdulillah..now on I’m a system engineer and i will continue my study (Master) in this july, Insya-allah….
Well, in that time I hate them so much…so the way how to pay the revenge on them is to be a very successful and happy person……If I did the first plan to pay the revenge on them…for sure it’s not worth enough cuz at the end I just hurt myself at the worst place..
To Sufi…I think it’s not that late to be in the right path…. U have the ability to change yr life…….Live in success and good pride. It’s worth enough!! if you hate the way yr dad treats you… one day when you have your own family make sure yr kids won’t feel the way you did…..
I hope Sufi could take the right action and those kids out there who have the similar case with us…won’t do anything that could harm to yourself!!!
To auntie halimaton…we pray together for Sufi….seek Allah favor to protect and make Sufi think in such clear. I hope she will be in the family again as soon as possible….. Insya-Allah
April 14th, 2008 at 9:45 am
assalamualaikum…
puan…
bykn bersabar, berdoa dab solat sunat.
untuk kalian semua, ingatlah FORMULA D.U.I.T ini:
D: Doa/Solat sunat
U: Usaha (cara yg halal)
I: Istiqamah (berterusan)
T: Tawakkal (pastikan buat berterusan Solat/doa, usaha dan barulah bertawakkal
*Nabi SAW ajar sahabat2 apabila ada kesusahan/bencana, cepat2 ambil wuduk dan solat sunat 2 rakaat. Ini maknanya, jika ada kesusahan/masalah/bencana kita hendaklah memohon pertolongan drpd ALLAH SWT dulu baru, pastu barulah kita usaha sedaya upaya..
INSYAALLAH PERTOLONGAN ALLAH BERSAMA KITA.
April 14th, 2008 at 9:53 am
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April 14th, 2008 at 11:09 am
amboi2 sedp la hang duk kutuk org”mcm anjing & babi je”.dh ko rasa ko dah smpurna sngt ke.nnti kena kt btang idung ko bru thu.
April 14th, 2008 at 11:18 am
ak pn sepndpt ngn beberape pndngn dr saudara kita, skang nie isu umat islam yang dianggp pngganas oleh barat. sudah psti mereka tdak akn mmbnrkan munculnya ahli bijak pandai dikalangn org islam. so, kepda sape2 yg ade ank bijak 2 kena jaga elok2.jng biar dipengaruhi oleh musuh2 islam…..
April 14th, 2008 at 2:54 pm
sister halimah, you cannot simply leave your husband just like that. be like our former deputy prime minister, anwar ibrahim. to nite his nite 14 april, black monday.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NOO9YnYULK0
his wife very good. always help him even her hubby being prison by former prime minster.
do you undersatand what i;m saying? if not, go to hell then, NOW!
April 14th, 2008 at 3:55 pm
salam to yusof family and all..
we are all here praying for you…
i must say i am really saddened over what has happened..i totally understand what’s ur family going thru..its ok..as long as u have fate in ALLAH..INSYAALLAH..HE will guide us to the right path..this is just the test for ur family and every difficulties that you’ve encountered, insyaallah, there will be the bright side of it…just stay strong!!
moscow,russia
April 14th, 2008 at 4:06 pm
salam auntie…
bersabarlah ngan pe yg blaku…
mayb de hikmah disebalik yg blaku…
ingatlah Allah slalu n b’doa slalu k…
wasalam…=)
April 14th, 2008 at 5:11 pm
assalamulaikum,
To aunty halimahton,i hope u and the rest of the family be patient dgn ujian ALLAH.u must remember that ALLAH hanya memberi ujian kepada hamba-NYA yang dirasakan layak dan mampu menanggung ujian tersebut.dan setiap ujian yang didatangkan menandakan ALLAH masih ingat dan sayang kepada kita! i also hope that the rest of the family won’t give up and hopefully someday will decide to come back to Malaysia.We, Malaysians would glad to have u and your family back here!
And if suffiah is reading this,i hope you will give it a deep thought of what you are doing right now.we are all humans and will always make mistakes and we learn from that.and as human its not our job to judge people.its between u and HIM.but whatever u do and wherever u are now,i hope u will come back to your family especially your mother.we all love you and will always have your back!
April 15th, 2008 at 2:28 am
Assalamualaikum…
bersabar lah kak.. semua yg terjadi ada hikmahnya..
kuatkan iman, tabahkan hati, semoga diberi petunjuk oleh yg maha ESA..
berdoa dan bertawakkal semoga dilembutkan hati sufiah, dan semoga sufiah kembali ke pangkal jalan….
Allah maha mengetahui di atas segala sesuatu yg terjadi..
April 15th, 2008 at 3:06 am
Nape padam komen pst saye yang semalam 14 April 2006 11++ am ye? apa rasionalnye post tu dipadamkan?
April 15th, 2008 at 3:48 am
Assalamualaikum
Kak Halimahton,
Saya tengok akak di TV hari tu akak agak tenang even tengah bergelodak ngan masalah anak(sufiah).
Akak cakap bagi Sufi masa. Tapi akak pada pendapat saya, kita mmg boleh bagi dia masa tapi jgn terlalu lama. Akak have to do something to bring her back. Tawakkal kepada Allah sahaja tanpa berusaha tidak akan kemana. Ya kita boleh memanjatkan doa semoga satu hari Sufi akan kembali ke pangkuan kita semua kembali ke pangkal jalan.
Saya kongsi cerita kawan saya dengan semua. Kawan ini saya kenal masa saya sama2 belajar di Univ. Kalau dikalangan kawan2 saya dia lah yang paling baik, alim. Dia juga datang dari keluarga yg agak kuat agama banding ngan kami. Satu hari saya dpt tau dia Murtad, keluar dari Islam. Ayah dia cuba cari dia, tapi dia cakap pada ayah dia jgn cari dia.. dia selamat. Sampai hari ini, tiada sapa yg tau di mana dia. Mengikut sumber yg boleh dipercayai, ayah dia cuma tau dia berada di KL tapi tak tau spesifik tempat. Saya tak tau tahap mana ayah dia cuba bawa dia balik kepangkal jalan sbb sampai hari ini dia masih belum kembali.
Jadi saya harap Kak Halimah dan ahli keluarga yang lain usaha sedaya upaya mencari Sufi, berjumpa 4 mata dengan dia.. slow talk dengan sufi. Tanya apa masalah dia. Percaya ah hati anak akan lembut dengan nasihat ibunya. Saya juga ada ibu. Kalau saya marah pada ahli keluarga saya tapi bila ibu saya bersuara hati saya akan sayu. Reda akan kemarahan yg ada dalam hati saya. Saya juga ibu kepada 2 org anak. Saya boleh lihat anak2 saya lebih dengar cakap saya banding ayah dia. Even I talked the same words with my husband but they listen to me more than their father. Itu kelebihan ibu.
Tambahan pula dari apa yg kita tau dia tak salahnya kakak dalam kehidupan dia.. dia salahkan ayah dia. Jadi akak kena main peranan yang penting dalam usaha menyelamatkan Sufi dari terjebak lebih jauh.
Kami saudara Islam hanya mampu memanjatkan doa agar Sufiah dan saudara Islam lain yang mempunyai masalah dapat diselamat dan kembali kejalan yg benar.
-Umi-
April 15th, 2008 at 5:28 am
To ROCKERSVets;
Even she herself said that when she became a clerk or what…. she’s broke with lots of debts, especially from her credit cards. Her family looked like they don’t even care about her. Kalau lari, lari saja macam tu… tak masuk jejak kasih ker aper. At least report lah kalau Sufiah tu hilang lari. Tak sayang anak betul. By that time she already lost hope, she needs to pay for her tuition fees, live her own life, so whatelse can she do? In this case, we can take Datuk Mashitah advice… which is, we can be a prostitute kalau darurat. In this case, it’s her darurat lah. She doesn’t have anything to pay all the debts, plus, nobody wants to help her… so she better off becoming a prostitute, but not low-class one lah. Furthermore, she is so lustful, as an effect of being controlled by her parents so many years. Darurat, at the same time, no money to get married for sexual pleasure, so we can take Datuk Mashitah’s words here.
I hope we can stop being a drama queen or an actress. Let’s find a true solution to this, not just giving it all to Allah. Pray, can pray lah… but we must work something out too. If we just hug ourself like we’re not damn care, but at the same time, you feel like you pity them… do something lah. Or else, you just support whatever her wrongdoing. It’s your choice, and hers too.
April 15th, 2008 at 5:41 am
to sufiah family…
sabarlah hendaksabarlahnya..
p/s: kalau one of my sedara uat bende cmni, akan aku cari smpai ke lubang cacing.. dah jumpa, aku ikat dia, bawk balik kg. brainwash balik… kene sedarkan dia smpai dia igt..
April 15th, 2008 at 6:38 am
Hi Shilpa Lee (nice choice of name, there),
I’m afraid you’re engaging in a lot of speculation without really having any of the facts. In this country, Sufiah could easily find a normal job to pay off ~£3,500 in debts in a year or two, as long as she were prepared to be relatively frugal. I know plenty of less-qualified people than her who have done exactly that.
Furthermore, where did you get the idea that her family (us, in other words) is unwilling to help her? Sufiah hasn’t asked for our help, and frankly I don’t think she wants our help. That’s fine, as it’s her decision, but if she really needed anything from the family she would only have to ask.
Regarding one of your other points, Sufiah certainly didn’t decide to become an escort “as an effect of being controlled by her parents so many years”. In reality, when we were teenagers we had *far* more control over our own lives than most other kids; for instance, I went to university when I was 12 and apart from housing, I handled almost every aspect of my life by myself — I organised my own schedule, chose my own friends, chose my own politics, got my own food, and so on. I disagreed with my parents on numerous issues and nobody had a problem with it, so where exactly is this imaginary “control” that you’re talking about?
Finally, Sufiah’s upbringing was almost exactly the same as that of the rest of us, but you don’t see anyone else running away and/or becoming an escort, do you? Sure, my dad’s behaviour caused quite a few problems, but at the end of the day, you have to take responsibility for your own actions — you can’t keep blaming your family, your friends, the government, or anyone else for decisions that you yourself have made. To be fair, I don’t think Sufiah has tried to blame anyone else, but it certainly seems that other people are intent on trying to do so.
Regards,
Iskander
April 15th, 2008 at 6:40 am
I disagree.. can always hijrah to a better surroundings.. rezeki dimana mana.. choose the correct path..
April 15th, 2008 at 9:00 am
assalamualaikum..
Pn H
Diharap Pn tabah menghadapi semua ujian dari Allah. Ingatlah, ujian Nya datang dalam perbagai bentuk, ini ujian daripadaNya, dan Dia masih tidak lupa kepada Pn. Bersyukurlah Dia masih tidak lupa.
Penjelasan yang Pn berikan amatlah dihargai bagi menerangkan keadaan sebenar.
Saya harap Pn dan keluarga sentiasa berdoa agar Sufi kembali ke pangkal jalan.
Malah kami di Malaysia turut mendoakan Sufi kembali ke pangkal jalan.
Salah satu yang menjadi amalan kami (saya dan keluarga) adalah surah Yasin pelbagai manfaat antarnya:
Ayat 1 -9 Surah Yasin - utk keselamatan diri
Ayat 9 Surah Yasin - org jahat especially org kafir tidak nampak kita.
Ayat 76 Surah Yasin - Utk mententeramkan diri dari fitnah org..(dijadikan amalan). Jika rasa sedih, sebak atau kecewa, sambil pegang dan urut dada, bacalah ayat tersebut. Pn H la tahzan..
Ayat 82 Surah Yasin - utk hajat, jika berhajat sesuatu, bacalah 100 x. Dibaca pada air dan minum selama 40 hari- boleh jadi penawar.Insyaallah.
Semoga Pn H sabar menghadapi cabaranya dan sentiasa ingat Allah bersama hambaNya selagi hambaNya tidak lupa akan Nya..
Eda dan keluarga..
Malaysia.
April 15th, 2008 at 10:08 am
Assalamualaikum aunty Halimahton and family,
Allah blessings always with you. I am 23 same age as Sufiah but not clever like her.. Every family has its own ups and down. We are both in common but alhamdulillah Allah always be with strong ppl.
Aunty, be strong..
My mother always tell me that to her anak2 is all kebahagiaan for her but anak2 is also ujian dr Allah. It is not ur fault, i believe that mothers do all the best for the childrens. This is partly ur ujian but not ur fault, this is big ujian for Sufiah and the rest of her life. I believe she know whats is the end of result of her decisions..
Aunty,
Best of luck. Allah on ur side. i believe u are strong as my mother, could even be stronger..insyaAllah…
April 15th, 2008 at 11:04 am
Hi Iskander… thanx for your feedback…
Why you (and your family) have to wait til she ask you guys for help? C’mon lah… I bet in the age of 23 and below, we still need help from our family. Is it you have to ask for help first, then your family will help? Sure it’s something weird happening here. Once you saw Sufiah run away, you guys should have done your best effort to catch her back and counsel her. She’s still young, not in the age of 40s or 50s who can take care of themselves without guidance (and I bet some in that age also need their family’s help). She needs support from you guys, deep in her heart, although it appears that she don’t want any. She needs attention, that’s what I saw. In order for her to get that very ‘kind’ attention, she chose a way that will open all of our eyes, not to say you and your family.
Have you ever seen how trainers/caretakers from boy’s home or rehab for teenagers treat the new attendees? It is very very difficult. I suggest you to watch “Gateway Asia: Brat Academy” which teaches us how do we cope with rebelious youngsters. Everybody rebels, like we bops… but how do we overcome it? Don’t carry on with ‘just let-away’ attitude. In Malaysia, we call this as “tak-apa” or “biarlah dia nak buat apa” attitude. She desperately needs your supports and attention any way. That is why she chose to be an ‘escort’ (it’s a polite word instead of prostitute, so I’m going to use it onward).
My point here is very clear. Don’t just simply pray to God. God will not answer your prayers, guys… without any efforts. It’s like asking for cooked food without cooking it. You can have many reasons to cover up your ass, but it won’t surely help to solve any single damn thing. By revealing your family to the publicity of Sufiah’s bad acts, will just add another disaster upon disaster. People will question you, question her… it will be endless! So now, my advice is, if you don’t want her to be like that, work out on something… if you prefer not to do anything, just support whatever her wrongdoings in hope that she will make more money out of it. Period.
April 15th, 2008 at 1:25 pm
Hi Shilpa Lee,
Again, I don’t think you understand the facts here. Sufiah said many years ago that she didn’t want anyone in the family to contact her, and we *have* to respect her wishes in this respect; in the UK, trying to make contact with an adult who doesn’t want to be contacted is borderline-illegal, even if they are a family member. This is why we have no choice but to wait for Sufiah to make contact first — we can’t compel her to talk to us if she doesn’t want to.
Regards,
Iskander
April 15th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
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April 15th, 2008 at 2:59 pm
I always think that no matter what way a parent use to raise their children, they always have good intentions to start it off.
Who are we, the public and the media to judge Halimahton and her family, on their method of raising their children?
Just keep God in your hearts, Halimahton. When we are down, He will lift us up.
April 15th, 2008 at 3:05 pm
Assalamu’alaikum..
Abu Sa’id ibn Sa’d ibn Malik ibn Sinan al-Khudri reported that the Prophet s.a.w said:
“Among those before you there was a man who killed ninety-nine people. He asked who was the most knowledgeable man in the world and was directed to a monk.
He went to him and said that he had killed ninety-nine people and was repentance possible for him? The monk said, ‘No,’ so he killed him and made it a hundred.
Then he again asked who was the most knowledgeable man on earth and was directed to a man of knowledge. He said that he had killed a hundred people, so was repentance possible for him? The man said, ‘Yes, who can come between you and repentance? Go to such-and-such a land, where there are some people worshiping Allah Almighty. Worship Allah with them and do not return to your own country. It is an evil place.’ So he went and then, when he was half way there, he died.
The angels of mercy and angels of punishment started to argue about him. The angels of mercy said, ‘He came in repentance, turning with his heart to Allah Almighty.’ The angels of punishment said, ‘He has not done a single good action.’
An angel came in a human form and they appointed him arbitrator between them. He said, ‘Measure the distance between the two countries and whichever one he is nearer to, that is the one he belongs to.’ They measured and found he was nearer to the land to which he was going, so the angels of mercy took him.” (Agreed upon)
In the variant in the Sahih, “He was a hand-span nearer to the virtuous land, so he was put among their people.” In the variant in the Sahih, “Allah revealed to this country to distance itself and that one to come nearer. He said, ‘Measure the distance between them,’ and they found that he was nearer to the good one by a hand-span and he forgave him.” In one variant, “He was nearer it by a short neck.”
April 15th, 2008 at 3:17 pm
Assalamu’alaikum..
“AND DESPAIR NOT OF THE SPIRIT OF ALLAH”
(Surah Yusuf: verse 87)
May Allah guide sufiah and all of us to the right path of His way.
Ya Wasia’l Fadhl.. ighfirlana..
Allahumahktimna bihusnil khatimah.. :’(
April 15th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
salam… bukalah minda juara… wahai saudaraku sekalian…aminnn….
ya Rabbulalamin… selamatkan muslimin muslimat, mukminin walmukminat… amin ya Allah…ya Jalilul Jabbar..
April 15th, 2008 at 5:18 pm
Kak Halimahton and children,
my heart’s with all of u as i try to swallow the bitter news on sufiah. To see one of our sisters taking this path willingly is not easy. I hope and pray that she’ll return to her family, for her own sake. Unity and togetherness is important for your family right now. take care…and continue to pray
April 15th, 2008 at 6:51 pm
apapun. aku harap, yusof family dan keluarga akan tabah. tentang sufiah, we only can pray. Its up to her to decide right now.
April 15th, 2008 at 6:53 pm
to iskander and family,
Be strong, pray to Allah…may Allah bring Sufiah to the right path…migrate@come back to Malaysia… serve the nation… People here appreciate you guys more than in the UK.. look how caring they are.. giving supportive comments and what not…think and rethink.. Malaysia is not as bad as you guys think (if that the reason for not coming back).. in the end the choice is yours…
April 15th, 2008 at 7:46 pm
salam…..
to Yusof Family,
maybe i do not know the real problems that sufiah and u guys face off rite now, but if sufy really need the job she can find the correct path…and not this way…..If you guys says that sufy did not want to keep in touch with u guys, so it mean that let her be….she can think about herself by her own…to aunty halimathon, be strong and keep thinking that ALLAH always with us……
April 16th, 2008 at 1:20 am
to soo-fi family.. sabar dan tabah..jangan teerlalu mendesak kepada soo-fi biar dia berfikir…pada saya dia akan kembali tapi bukan sekarang dan pada masa itu….janganla.. kita menghukum dia , kasih la… dia …sayangla dia…
April 16th, 2008 at 1:24 am
Assalamualaikum.
I feel sad to what had happen to sufiah. Let us all pray that Allah will open her heart to corret path of life. Everything that happen has reasons for it. I really hope that Aunty Halimaton will be strong and pray for Sufiah.
Amin.. amin.. ya rabbal alamin.
April 16th, 2008 at 1:33 am
peace be upon to my beloved soo-fi( if you read this )
soo-fi…it’s not a bigmistake , but think again… what u doing right now is just a temporary money …at the end it will ruin your life…
think again…. it can damage your health… with std, hiv..
u can be rich..if use u’r capability (math genius) wisely..
AZMI
(i still remember u…with black baju kurung..10 year ago…)
April 16th, 2008 at 2:37 am
hope auntyy eton still strong and pray for soo-fi
April 16th, 2008 at 3:17 am
what happen to soo-fi is…desperation…with the c.card and room rental burden… to me…she got her ego…and try to solve all this problem without..asking fammily help..
lonely…sad… sex leasure need.. no money… credit card… room rental…
study….all this play in her mind …to tell truth..soo-fi fed up already with all the burden and she need a platform to run away from it…
but the platform that she choose are wrong… but… please dont blame her….i think let us give a time to let her to think…what she’s doing right now can ruin her life and damage her health…
to..the family try to contact soo-fi…but please dont blame her…. and tell soo-fi..that we all still love u…
April 16th, 2008 at 3:58 am
assalamualaikum dear mdm. Halimaton,
I am truly sorry to hear what happened to ur family. You are an incredible person. I truly believe that you are the one who is gifted.Although a lot of fuss has been made about ur husband and daughter, i am more interested about the “method” used in teaching ur children. Have you done any research or any theories regarding ur “method”? is there any available webpge which i can read about ur method in detail? I really hope that i can get more information and i really hope you can share this magnificent information. I am so sorry if it’s inappropriate to bring this matter now but I pray to God that everything will work out just fine at the end of the day. I mean every family got its own problem and it is really bad when its been over-publicized by the irresponsible media. To Pn. Halimaton and children, be brave like you always do and people will tell you what to do and what not but in the end you are the one went through so many things and only you who know how to solve this issue better than anyone else out there.ALLAH KNOWS.
April 16th, 2008 at 5:44 am
Hi Iskander…
So now, you are telling me that it’s a culture in UK to not contact your family members who appear to be not in need, aren’t you? Does that mean, you guys don’t contact her at all? So what is the point saying a prayer, showing off to TV3 that you guys performed a prayer? Ewww… that was so so attention-seeker. Just like Sufiah herself. I’m not insulting you guys OK… it’s just what I’m thinking. Luckily most Malaysians are close-minded just like the message posters here. They pity you, say a prayer for you, ask you guys to be strong bla bla bla… what a drama queen. In fact, they didn’t think out of the box like me. I love to question what’s behind, what’s the content rather than the rigid, physical appearance and substances. It’s good that you guys create this website, but to the purpose of telling the truth? I’m not that convinced with all the reasons. By telling that if you guys care/help your family member without her consent is against your culture in UK, it’s clearly shown that you guys are not to the same ‘kind’ and ‘wholehearted’ typical Malaysians. It shows that you guys are selfish in nature, with kiasu attitude but at the same time, you guys have the Malaysian attitude of “tak apa” or “biarlah”.
I know you guys don’t really read all good and encouraging comments from other typical Malaysians here, instead you choose to reply to mine. Yes, I guess so… because I’m maybe the only one here who tried to dig out the ‘hidden’ secrets of your family. I know it’s your personal matter! But now, your Sufiah issue is in hot soup. Everyone tries to know the reason behind it and gives their support to you. By giving lots of reasons and statements to cover up your ass and to show that you guys are on the right side, I bet you guys have done it pretty well. However, to me, you guys are just another selfish, un-caring, attention-seeker or can I say, inhumane? Yup, even dogs really take care of the puppies… but you guys, especially your mum, just let her away… with the reason of ’she’s an adult already’ or ‘it’s not our culture’ or ’she doesn’t need our help’.
Sorry, not a good example of parents I guess! Sorry to say!
April 16th, 2008 at 6:04 am
Hi Shilpa Lee,
I didn’t say this was a cultural issue — it’s a matter of what is *legal* in this country. Please make an effort to read more carefully before you comment.
Incidentally, we do actually read everyone’s posts. I chose to respond to yours because, unlike the others, it was full of inaccuracies and needed to be corrected.
Regards,
Iskander
April 16th, 2008 at 6:55 am
Assalamu’alaikum..
Dear all Muslims..
Be carefull with propaganda of kuffar.
Please don’t believe them in this situation.
In my opinion, they try to cheat us..
Just bringing you to thinking something..
The fact is, at the first news about sufiah at 31march, we learn from the kuffar that sufiah stay in the room like she is very poor student, with her small room, the cheap radio and so on..
But in a week after that, the kuffar show sufah’s confession that she look like a princess and so on. (like a very rich people)..
The story is very very doubtful.
Sufiah, please come back home.
get embracing your mom..
To iskander and family, be strong with this test..
Allah will help your family insyaAllah..
April 16th, 2008 at 7:19 am
knapa dia x buat busnees tu kat malaysia??kan ramai VIP di malaysia ni juga….hmmm rugi2…
April 16th, 2008 at 7:41 am
Shilpa Lee(as if) is it? You are hillarious. REALLY. LOL. U r the typical cynic who does not believe in anything else but yourself. I think what are you trying to suggest is that you can do a better job than Pn. HAlimahton in raising children, arent u? How self-righteous.
my dear, pls. keep posting those comments because they are rather entertaining than informational n helpful.they actually showed how ’selfish’, ‘closed-minded’, ‘attention-seeker’, ‘inhumane’ you are. (quoted from ur comments). My dear, i suppose you dont have any children and even if you do, they are not geniuses who are being offered to Oxford at 13, i guess. Obviously, U definitely have no credibility and a clue on whatever happened to this family. If your statement only based on some shows, you better do more homework ya. Out of the box? I dont think so. To Shilpa, all of your comments are not valid and hopefully you will come to your senses someday and learn something.ALLAH KNOWS.
April 16th, 2008 at 8:05 am
To Puan, you have 5 children, 4 are doing fine, so thanks to Allah for that,
your life has been so much blessed, focus on your 4 children and give them support they always need. about the other one, one day when she is 30 or 40, she will realize her mistakes and come and seek forgiveness from you and Allah. People normally realize they are making mistake when they are 30 or 40, but I hope by the time she realizes her mistakes, you are still there…
April 16th, 2008 at 8:20 am
Sabarlaa Puan Halimahtoon. Ini dugaan Allah, mungkin ada hikmahnya. Sabar itu Iman….
April 16th, 2008 at 10:57 am
I hope Sufiah make apologizes to all malay and muslim around the world for what he doing
and she repent to God of what she doing wrong
Please sufiah stop all this nonsense and get back to your familly
Malaysia Love you
Allah love you
Your familly love you
so why not love yourself sufiah
Saya rasa sufiah gilakan duit dan dia sanggup buat benda tue untuk duit tapi macam mana masa depan beliau siapa nak peristerikan seorang jalang
Sufiah hentikanlah fikirlah masa depanmu
tak tau nak kata apa tapi terkejut
Saya harap Sufiah bertaubat
April 16th, 2008 at 11:33 am
assalammualaikum the yusof.
im very glad to hear all the truths about what hv been happening. Malaysian keep talking about your family these days. everyday, suffiah is on the news. all i want to say is that, stay strong and be faithful to Allah. everything happen for a reason. i belive that suffiah still remember you guys and still she feels regret and she may think that its too late for her to come back to the family. im 22 years old, i think i know how does she feels right now. apart from being ashame off all the things she has done. she still need the family.
sometimes, we have the feeling to rebel to those we love.and i believe that is what she feels now. just be strong and pray to Allah each day to clear everything up for suffiah and let Him open up her heart to the family and Islam.
derest suffiah if you read this,
you are fortunate to have your mother.and your other siblings.they love you no matter what you’ll become.its the blood you share with the rest of them.open up your heart to them.let gone be by gone.return to the right path.they love you.we love you.
warmest regards,
missBobbY
April 16th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
Dear Yusof family,
Allah is great! May He bring Sufiah back to you. I know what it means to have a family member go astray. When he did return to us, it was joyful but brief. He is with Allah now. In a better place. I pray that you will have more time with Sufiah. I pray that she will come back to you. She will realize that in the end, family is all she’ll ever have.
April 17th, 2008 at 2:57 am
Dear Iskander,
I quite agree with Shilpa Lee. What she meant is to seek the whole truth and nothing but the truth. No doubt she is sarcastic but her bitter words might solve your family crisis. Bitter does not mean poison. Bitter medicine can cure illnesses.
Anyway what’s the purpose of having this blog? is it just to clean up your tarnished family image? after all is Sufiah not part of your family? if she’s part of your family, u should include her in your “problem solving equation”. otherwise you’l NEVER get the right solution. u know what i mean?
Therefore, u need to reconsider her needs and wants. Suppress your ego. Open up your mind. try to look at things from a different “angle”. From Sufiah’s angle. All these while the family has been abandoning her.
Of course not the other children who rebel. Theory (service marketing, 2006) says that only 4% of dissatisfied customers will complain. If the complaint is entertained, 65% of them will come back. this theory is quite similar to our family scenario. So, think about it.
regards,
Umi Sufiah
April 17th, 2008 at 5:19 am
Assalamualaikum.
I have to say that it’s more entertaining reading the comments than the blog itself. Especially those between Shilpa Lee and Iskander..
Well,I’m trying to be all neutral here. I believe the upbringing (like what is described in this blog) of the children is true..n I dont blame the family for what has happenned to Sufiah now. Sufiah has certainly chose the wrong path. She is a math prodigy, I’m sure she is clever enough to diffrentiate what is wrong and what is right.
But what Shilpe Lee has been commenting is very realistic, though they might sound a bit sinister. Iskander, u have to consider what Shilpa Lee have said, work something out to make all this thing right. Face the fact that u guys have been abandoning her, eventhough Sufiah herself did not ask for any help from you. Shilpa Lee’s point is, ” there must be a way to contact her”..
To Pn. Halimahton, I truly believe that you are a loving and caring mother.. Everybody is impressed on how u teach your children with your undivided love.. And I really regret for what has happenned to your daughter Sufiah now, and all the speculations… Keep on praying to Allah s.w.t, insyaAllah.
Kind regards,
Damia
April 17th, 2008 at 5:38 am
Hi Damia and Umi Sufiah,
I think there’s a bit of a language barrier here, because very few people seem to understand what I am saying. I’ve been learning Bahasa Melayu, though, so hopefully these kinds of things won’t be an issue in the future.
For instance, I never said that the family had “abandoned” Sufiah, and yet you somehow managed to come to that conclusion from my posts. Did you not understand what I meant when I said that trying to find and contact Sufiah *against her wishes* is borderline-illegal in this country? I hope you’re not seriously suggesting that we try to break the law.
Regards,
Iskander
April 17th, 2008 at 5:45 am
dear shilpa lee …..
do have any younger sister…b’cause i dont think you now how hard to take care…of adik perempuan..
….last year my sis’ sneekig out to go to club…while she’s only 18…all of my family…’gundah gulana’… try to find her that nite…until 5 am..you know…(ingat kan kene culik)
i’am as her brother cry like a baby and sweat like a pig… while looking her around kuala lumpur….
at last we found her with her friend.having fun.drink…. hang out at one of the club at bangsar…
waah…she so happy that time..but me and my family like ‘kucing hilang anak in k.l…’
after we bring her at home she said “sorry”…
but when ask her why…she said ….i dont know…i just want to have fun…but i’am promise it’s won’t happen again..(i give her big “ceramah” that nite)
wah…how hard to take care of “adik perempuan”
it same to iskander…is’t right bro..
when soo-fi 15 she ran off …and the police find her at a cafe working as a waitress… when the police.bring her at home..she tell the police that she don’t want to stay at home…
and her mother try to “pujuk” but she’s still dont want to….what to do…terpaksa ikut..(at 11 soo-fi try to kill herself twice)…still want to force her…i dont think so…
she live in the community (non muslim)…but still contact with her mom…and continue her study at 18…at that time she fall in love with jonathan..and engage with him…and she bring jonathan to her father…soo-fi say sorry to her father and he hug soo-fi and soo-fi hug him back.. everything seem to be ok..right now…
but… after two day… aunty eton heard that farooq shout to soo-fi “shut up”… and after 2-3 min soo-fi bring her luggage and ran off…
aunty eton try to rang her up..and ask soo-fi what happen…soo-fi just said…”i’am fed up with dad…dont worry mom i’m ok……..” and hang up…not longer than that ….
soo-fi married with this…jonathan..but in 13 month… they divorce…( belum hilang kisah hitam dengan ayah soo-fi dah…….divorce) and soo-fi decited to further her studies in master of economic..till now..
and…tell her family that she don want to go home…..until we all find up soo-fi confession in notw.co.uk………..
i think the victim right now is aunty eton and…the other sibling…
but what should we do right now is..try to talk to her..slowly…and tell her..u are the best…forget what u did..and just come back..we will accept u…please dont even blame her…try to understand her..
try to think…. from soo-fi angle….
so to shilpa lee do you know….this story or not….you should support iskander and his family…..right bro..
regard
mohd azmi wagiran….save soo-fi..!
(”susah nya jadi abg kepada 10 orang adik beradik….”)
April 17th, 2008 at 5:48 am
Dear Halimahton & Family,
From what i read here your family didn;t try to contact Sufiah because she said she no need your help.
Our children when they grow up (age between 18-25 I believe) they always think they grow up enough. they no need other people help and opinion for them to choose their life. BUT us as parent we should monitor them until they have their own family (esspecially for girl). So don;t use the reason that Sufiah said she no need the help so you and your family didn;t try to contact her.. face to face to her?
Please Puan H, some children have EGO. They think they can handle themselve without guidance from family or others. That what they think. In real world WE not only the children, always need guide from other people, Quran and Hadith to achieve our ambition.
I hope Puan & family doing something and try to contact Sufiah beside pray to Allah.
Puan,
Tawakkal pada Allah tanpa melakukan apa-apa usaha takkan memberi hasil apa-apa.
Tawakkal Tu Allah maksudnya kita berusaha dan berserah pada Allah supaya Allah akan menolong segala usaha kita berbuahkan hasil.
Regards
Umi
April 17th, 2008 at 5:57 am
Mohd Azmi Wigaran,
Tu sebab kita ada pepatah jaga lembu sekandang lebih senang dari jaga anak perempuan seorang.:-)
April 17th, 2008 at 6:03 am
dear iskander..
i think you should…go and find soo-fi and have a chat with her…
try…but dont break law…just try..
how your mom…and zulieka…
keep pray to allah for soo-fi…insyaallah…
April 17th, 2008 at 6:06 am
dear umi
wagiranla…
April 17th, 2008 at 6:43 am
Puan,
mum always do the best for their children…. Allah sentiasa bersama anda. InsyaALLAH.
April 17th, 2008 at 6:54 am
Hi mohd azmi wagiran,
Thank you, that is a pretty accurate summary of events. It was actually my dad who said sorry to Sufiah and not the other way round, though, because at that time Sufiah hadn’t really done anything that she needed to apologise for.
Anyway, I remember the events very clearly because I was the one who tried to make peace between the two parties. I thought I’d succeeded, but I didn’t expect my dad to lose his temper *again* only a few days after that… So you see, this whole sequence of events has been pretty frustrating, because I feel that reconciliation was within our grasp just a few years ago — sadly, my dad just seemed incapable of changing his behaviour.
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Hi umi,
Again, it’s not just a matter of Sufiah saying she doesn’t want our help. I think the misunderstanding is coming from the fact that the laws in this country are very different from those in Malaysia. I understand and agree with what you’re saying about egos being a problem here, but in the UK parents basically have no rights over their children after they become adults, so it’s extremely difficult for us to do anything. Unfortunately, many people in this country have little respect for families or parents in general; that’s one of the (many!) reasons I’m planning to leave the UK as soon as I am able.
Regards,
Iskander
April 17th, 2008 at 7:23 am
mungkin saya agak terlambat dapat menjengah masuk ke blog family yusuf ni. tetapi thank Allah at least i found a good source of knowldege utk mengetahui apa yg sebenarnya berlaku ke atas keluarga yg maat saya kagumi ini. apa yg saya tahu sufiah menjadi prodigy atas usaha ayahnya sahaja dan bukan ibunya, skrg saya tahu kebenarannya…dan utk iskander, teruskan mengemasikini blog ni utk semua yg prihatin dgn nasib keluarga anda….
sekian
April 17th, 2008 at 8:57 am
Dear iskandar,
Now things are getting clearer. you see. when we are telling the truth, everybody is willing to contribute ideas to help us. We as mothers (shilpa lee, umi and many others) have strong instinct whenever our daughters feelings, needs and wants are concerned. I have a dauhter same age with Sufi and many more children growing up. We were in UK for quite sometime before. i did notice some changes in my daughters behaviour after been in UK. So i know the worries your mum is suffering. Until today i am always worried about
April 17th, 2008 at 9:07 am
what is happening to my daughters. That’s why even though i am very busy, i take the trouble to contribute something to this blog.
Sharing our similar problems regarding the upbringing of daughters might help us findt ways to solve them and release our tension. I believe all mothers who have teenage daughters will face the same situation. i agree with mohd azmi wagiran. go and ‘catch’ her but dont break the law.
dont worry iskander & mum. you are not alone. Many sincere hearts do care for u and family. May ALLAH SWT help us
regards,
Umi Sufiah
April 17th, 2008 at 9:12 am
salam to iskandar n family.
Actually it’s not rare about being an escort. Even in malaysia (Islamic country) also have many kind like that (having sex b4 married) or having sex to get money including muslims. u know..many people nowdays always put the religion at the last thing in their life.
sufiah just one of them. but she is highlighted bcos of her intelligent mind or prodigy like everybody said. and she choosed her life. Actually she choose the wrong way n I’m very sure she does know that bcos she is muslim but that is the thing that she wanted rite now. (donno the future)
but I think I rather to break the law n find her n contact her if I was her family. Growing up together..playing together..good n hard time together in past childhood time. I’ll make sure I know what condition she is going through untill she reach the stage of prostitute rite now…I’ll find the way to reach her if she was my sister n I thnk u shuld too. Do whatever u can to take her back bcos she is muslim n she is yur sister. Face her…find a reason why n tell her this is wrong even she might already know that..tell her whatever to convince her that you n yur family will support her but not in this way of life. u know. And finally if she still want her life to be like that (in wrong way) n reject you…then left her. U did what u shuld..the only thing now is to pray.
Let bygone be bygone. No one can go back and make a new beginning but anyone can start from now and make a hepy ending.
April 17th, 2008 at 9:46 am
dear sufi,iskander, antie halimaton, n all readers
i’m Jen who shared my childhood’s experience. Actually I really forgot to mention that since I was in primary school I got the education from both school (the academic school & religious school–> sekolah agama…if you are not familiar with this “sekolah agama” asks it from yr mother auntie halimaton…n for the readers out there, it’s a religious school that conducts by Johor’s government.
So, what I’m trying to say is to auntie Halimaton, me myself & the rest….please try our best to put the Muslim life style (Islamic lesson) to the kids since they are that young. –> in this case I’m not blaming auntie Halimaton…I know you did your best as a mother!!
It will be the best guidance to their life in what ever the situation is. As a normal human we must did some mistakes and sins but with the guidance in ourselves, it will make us think twice before we do something or at least we won’t go that far and will be repent if we are about to drift away, Insya-allah…
April 17th, 2008 at 10:57 am
Salam to Puan Halimahton & Iskandar & family,
I’m glad I came across this blog…I’v been following stories on your family since Sufiah first made the headline years before & glad to finally hear the correct version direct from the original source…I wish all the best for all of u & pray for safe return of Sufiah to the family…hope things would turn out well for all of u & may Allah shower His blessing, protection & guidance to the family in overcoming the current situation…
April 17th, 2008 at 5:09 pm
To O N E ….I agree with you…hope more muslim think like you. Let’s spread love and tolerance.
To Halimahton family don’t despair. Sufiah will go back to you one day..Love her unconditionally, let her make her own mistake and learn.
All souls that come here as human has their own mission to experience and to achieve as human so the soul can “advance” on the other side.
She is doing what she is doing now because she ignores her intuition..the light within our soul that transmit messages from the All Knowing (God) that constantly guide and speak to us showing the direction to what everyone is looking for … “the right thing to do” which leads to what we all want in life, love and happiness. ..
Sufiah is just confused. She wants love and happiness and she thought she found them. Her good life now as she claimed are just fake and temporary…she will come to her senses one day believe me.
She is smart but emotionally confused. We all think and see life differently. We carry our emotional hurt and try to heal it through many ways. Sometimes through negative way and sometimes positive. At the time she was confused and looking for answers in her life and along the way the negative idea visits her… But as I said earlier, she failed to “listen” to the “guide” within that tells her good or bad, fake or real…
…… but the “voice” usually will grow louder. Signs and messages from God will be visible to her if she starts looking for love and happiness again.. and a mothers prayer will help her more….. So give her time.
April 17th, 2008 at 5:40 pm
Hi,’
Pls try to contact Sufiah , and ask her to come back , you are her mother she will lisen toyou, allah is with you ,pls dont shout her, make her understand that whatever she is doing ,is wrong ,ask her to think about her small brother sister, dont diverce your husband , pls try to unite with familly,allah is with you, pls try to find her and get her back
pls help the familly (amin)
April 17th, 2008 at 6:02 pm
Assalamu’alaikum..
Alhamdulillah, there are a new hope here..
http://sufiahyusof.blogspot.com/
We also can support sufiah with make our donation for “Love Sufiah” campaign in http://www.melayu.org.uk/
Lets together make a lot of doa to help our sister, Sufiah..
May Allah help us..
Allahummansurna ummata Muhammadin s.a.w..
…………………….
Segala puji bagi Allah, ada bibit2 harapan baru untuk bantu sufiah di sini
http://sufiahyusof.blogspot.com/
Kita juga boleh sama-sama membantu sufiah dengan membuat sedikit derma untuk kempen “Love Sufiah” di http://www.melayu.org.uk/
Jom sama-sama berdoa untuk bantu saudara kita, sufiah..
Moga Allah bantu kita..
Wahai Allah.. Bantulah kami, demi nisbah kami sebagai ummat kekasihMu s.a.w..
April 17th, 2008 at 6:05 pm
salam…
to iskandar,pn halimathon n all yusof family members…
be patient….everything happen come with a certain reason that we might don`t know what is it actually…
keep praying hopefully ALLAH will open up sufiyah heart 2 return to the right path….
iskandar,i`m sure ur mother proud of u…what a great child she have….keep up ur good work stay by her side in this difficult time…this is the true purpose of children 4 made their parents happy and never let them cry….but nobody perfect rite???not all children can make it…
by the way may ALLAH always bless u n ur family~
“sesungguhnya semakin kita diuji semakin syg tuhan pada kita”
April 18th, 2008 at 1:06 am
dear iskander..
bro…have u..try to contact your sis…
and ask her for chat…with u..
i think if u keep in touch with u’r sis…i believe she will ..be friend with u and tell everything about her…to u..
same to me…with my younger sis’…sometime my wife get jealous…and sulking against me…ha.ha..ha..
bro…when the last time did u buy her…a.present…or something for her..?
bro..did..u hang out with her…at the mall or..somewhre else..when u have free time?
bro…have u chat about …fashion with soo-fi..?
i know it’s boring thing sometime….ha3
..if not…dont feel guilty but try to do it…with the other …
the best medicent in family is COMMUNICATION….
(LOVE SOO-FI…TO AUNTY ETON YOU’RE THE BEST..KEEP PRAY FOR SOO-FI…GIVE TIME TO SOO-FI…INSYAALLAH…)
April 18th, 2008 at 3:55 am
Salam dear Pn Halimahton, Iskander, Zuleikha, Abraham & Aisya,
In your effort to win back Sufiah’s heart, herewith is a very short do’a (do’a pengasih) for your beloved Sufiah, for all of you to amal: surah Yusof verse 4. Recite this doa as many times as possible and mention Sufiah’s name. InsyaAllah, it will soften her heart. Pls try and never give up. Good luck.bye
regards,
umi sufiah.
April 18th, 2008 at 4:24 am
to sufiah,
pls come home..pls come back o your mom.. she needs you more than anything..your bro n sis miss u so much..forget about the past..what past is past..your future is being with your family..they will forgive u no matter what had happened..your mom has been thru a lot..come while u still can..your come back is the best thing happens to your family and to all muslims..be good..
April 18th, 2008 at 10:37 am
dear iskander…
yup…. its true that farooq said sorry to soo-fi… but as a daugther i think she’s the one who should respect to farooq as a father…(but i think she cant take it any…more…)
but all this happen after her divorced..so she could’nt blame your family…
she’s the one who refuse to come back to u…
but i think she’s got her ego and won’t asking help from u’all….
so..the easiest and quickest way to all her problem and her need…is…
u must find the way to…tell soo-fi that ur’all are on her side…
tell her to get back to the right path…:-)
dear soo-fi,
i know ur confession in notw.co.uk it’s..just to make sure ur mom wont worry about u…. i know working as an escort girl…it’s not that sweet….
than live in a happy family… and i’m so sure that u still miss ur mom….
i dont think u can sleep well at nite…
so..please comeback…they all mis u and love u…
April 18th, 2008 at 5:35 pm
Dear Iskander,
Hopefully you wont tell or too much expose about your family life to people n media.Is good to tell the truth but with a limit.I belive people will manipultate whatever statement that you make here in newspapers to make money.They publices your family stories to make money.I believe you know about that.It also shows as respectation to sufia and your father especially to keep secret family matter.This is just my personal advise and hopefully u will consider to follow my advise.
April 18th, 2008 at 5:55 pm
Salam Sister Halimathon!
That Mama Jan lady was correct. The Almighty only gives out great tests to great people. And you are one great mother and I just know and pray that you will pass with great results too as you have succeeded amazingly with all of your beautiful children — under very difficult circumstances.
And do tell your children never to forget that heaven lies at the mother’s feet!
May God bless you and your children!
April 19th, 2008 at 9:00 am
Salam to Pn Halimah and family…
Saya harap puan dan keluarga tabah dan sabar diatas ujian yg Allah beri. Saya sgt sedih diatas kejadian yg berlaku, sayangnya Sufi….semoga Sufi kembali ke jalan Nya. Aminn….
April 19th, 2008 at 6:21 pm
Assalamualaikum to Puan H and children..
Be strong and be patient for what that already happened..Remember Allah always there for us..People may say anything to u, about ur family, but, don’t u ever felt down..life must go on..always pray for guidance…insyaallah one day everything is going to be as usual…wassalam..
April 20th, 2008 at 1:20 am
Hello
Why, if ev1 in your family is a prodigy, not study harder science subjects with all rounded skills e.g. medicine? Why Maths?
April 20th, 2008 at 3:19 pm
Salam,
Never stop praying. Being the mother of her, your pray will always be answered.
April 22nd, 2008 at 10:36 am
to Shilpa Lee…i dont think u r muslim based on what u write in here.
to Iskander, migrate to malaysia. we need more expertise here.
April 22nd, 2008 at 1:54 pm
I wish to meet Sufiah. Your blog is the only way I found I can contact with those who know the whereabouts of Sufiah. Why I wish to meet Sufiah? There is no need for any of you to know yet.
Please don’t post my quest in the response column.
April 22nd, 2008 at 3:45 pm
What Sufiah did is wrong. Nevertheless our Malaysian government do not need to be a hero helping or guiding her back on the expense of our tax money. There are lots of other suffering and cases alike in our own country that needs highlights and a helping hand from the government. Bak kate pepatah..Anak di buiaan di tinggal. Berok dihutan disusukan…
April 23rd, 2008 at 8:49 pm
I am really amused at all the comments written here. Some even go so far as to ask the yusuf family to return to Malaysia. Iskandar, some of these people despite their well wishes are hypocrites. They will never ever forget that your sister is a prostitute. Even if Sufiah returned to the right path, no one will marry her in Malaysia or for that matter anyone in your family for the shame Sufiah brought.
I challege all those well wishes to offer their son, daughter, sister, brother, aunty, uncle etc to form a union with yours. Your family is famous in Malaysia and where a scandal is concerned, the citizens have memories like elephants. They are also capable of making your life a living hell. Those who have commented are only a handful of the muslim community. Halimahton should know what it was like growing up in small town Muar. Nothing has changed in Malaysia. There are still a lot of narrow minded people whose only joy is to gossip gossip gossip about other people’s misfortune, PS I am not a muslim nor am I a malay but a malaysian.
April 24th, 2008 at 5:04 am
my dearest - amused , im confused wz your statement. R u truly malaysian ? dont you know theres already a case in malaysia similarly like sufiah and someone really married that lady now… shes now happily married with 2 children. And mind you, wat u mean by you are not a malay, nor muslim… narrow minded people ??
warm regards - truly, singaporean/malay muslim
April 24th, 2008 at 9:44 am
COERRECT WAT AMUSED SAIG /SINGA NO NEED TP ARGUE LA
April 26th, 2008 at 7:43 pm
I found your blog via Google while searching for tips for writing thank you notes for baby shower gifts and your post regarding Corrections of Misconceptions looks very interesting to me. I just wanted to write to say that you have a great site and a wonderful resource for all to share.
April 28th, 2008 at 9:32 am
inilah kehidupan…..sabar is…sabar kak…mari kita kembali pada ALLAH….kembali kepada AL-QURAN…kEPADA nBI….ANAK2 DAN HARTA ADALAH FITNAH( UJIAN )
April 29th, 2008 at 3:24 pm
dear iskander
can u tell me what happen actually …4 year ago…. the day that.. farooq shout to her (”shut up”) and soo-fi ran off after a few minute from that… (aunty eton heard it…)
i know farooq loose his temper *again* but how? because of what?… im confuse….d
April 29th, 2008 at 7:12 pm
Puan Halimaton and Iskander,
I realise there is a serious effort to search for Sufiah by the Malay Students Community in the UK. This is because they believe that she could have been forced into doing what she is doing. I read their arguments and some make sense. If so, I suggest you approach this lady
Susana Trimarco from Argentina. She has been fighting the case for “forced prostitution” there since she believes that her daughter has been forced to become prostitute. She lost her daughter (since 10 years ago), but by her sheer effort, has saved many young girls out from prostitution. I read her story today in the Readers’ Digest (Malaysian Edition). It was a heart moving story of a mother searching for her lost daughter just like your Sufiah. You may find her story in the internet. Google her name.
All the best to you and your family.
May 1st, 2008 at 6:51 am
Assalamualaykum, May Allah grant Sufiah guidance. May Allah Forgive her and bring her to the Right Path, insha’allah. Salam, Ayesha
May 2nd, 2008 at 4:13 pm
hi iskandar, go to website: http://www.mstar.com.my the found sufiah, im beginning to feel the same as Ibu Haz,…
May 2nd, 2008 at 4:18 pm
my apology , it shud be http://www.hmetro.com.my
May 5th, 2008 at 7:56 am
Salam buat Kak Halimahton sekeluarga. Secara peribadi saya turut merasa simpati dan sedih di atas apa yg berlaku pada Sufiah sememangnya ia merupakan sesuatu yang sangat tidak terduga akan berlaku. Disini saya mengharapkan Kak Halimahton Sekeluarga akan terus tabah didalam menghadapinya dan teruskan usaha untuk mengembalikan Sufiah kepangkal jalan.
Saya secara peribadi merasa amat teruja untuk tahu apakah perkembangan terkini yang boleh dikongsi bersama.Beberapa persoalan juga timbul di dalam pemikiran saya bagaimana pergolakkan yang berlaku di dalam keluarga Kak Halimahton. Bagaimana sikap bapanya, adek beradeknya dan Kak sendiri terhadap Sufiah.
Dari cerita-cerita yang dipaparkan saya merasa dia bagaikan dahagakan kasih sayang dan perhatian yang sewajarnya. Kenapa saya berkata demikian?…….. Dia inginkan sesuatu yang boleh mententeramkan jiwanya sebab itu dia memilih untuk berkahwin diusia yang begitu muda (19) tetapi malangnya dia gagal juga. Saya merasa terharu juga membaca berita yang menyatakan bahawa tidak ada seorangpun ahli keluarganya yang hadir dan majlis perkahwinan tersebut berlansung dengan begitu serdahana sekali. Keadaan ini tentunya mengecewakan.
Mungkin banyak lagi peristiwa-peristiwa lain yang membuatkan Sufiah merasa keciwa dengan ahli keluarganya yang menyebabkan dia sudah hilang kepercayaan dan tidak mengharapkan apa apa lagi.
Saya harap Kak Halimahton tidak keberatan untuk bercerita akan keadaan sebenar yang berlaku sehingga boleh menyebabkan Sufiah mengambil tindakkan yang sangat tragis ini.
Buat Iskander berusahalah untuk mencari Sufiah dengan menggunakan segala kebijaksanaan yang anda miliki jangan hanya berserah kepada undang-undang sehinggakan tidak mampu untuk mencari jalan keluarnya dari kemelut ynag sedang berlaku.
SEMOGA BERJAYA …INSYAALLAH AMIN.
May 20th, 2008 at 4:32 pm
Assalamualaikum Puan Hamilton,
You said most of the news in the mainstream press regarding Yusof family and Sufiah’s childhood is inaccurate. I do agree with you. Accuracy is prime quality.
As one said the most dangerous untruth is the truth moderately distorted. Whether the distortions occur (”done?”) delibrately or not, this is not the main issue. The onus is on you to give the accurate versions. Because you have more access to Sufiah, compared to prime media reporters surely any sound minded people will believe in you rather than prime media reporters.
I believe Sufiah has her own reason for doing so. To know accurately the reason is impossible only Sufiah and Allah SWT know. Whatever reason we give.It is just a guess. I think the emptiness of her soul that makes her choose the way of life as it is. It is unfortunate, it is beyond your control. And it is beyond your control to save your marriage, so did I. I’m worried my daughter will spoil but I will accept it as a fate, after which I sacrified everything I can. Others should learn a lesson from Sufiah’s tragedy. As a reminder for everyone of human kind, including me. Don’t add salt to injury. My deepest feeling of love to everyone of your family. Salam suksess. Regards.
I wish you will never give up. I think you should live by the reflection of thought: “When no one stands by me, I need to make sure that I stand by the truth”.
June 3rd, 2008 at 10:48 pm
I’ve read all of the comments written here and what I noticed is most of them are from mothers trying to relate to pn. Halimaton’s situation. But I thought I would give one from a daughter’s point of view, because I’m sorry to say, I can empathize a bit with what Sufiah is going through.
I am a 22 year old girl currently studying in university and the last 4 years of my life have been very rocky due to psychological and emotional baggage I carried from my childhood and teenage years. Basically I had trouble with my father and blamed him and my mom also for causing me distress. I felt like I wasn’t living up to their expectations academically, and often felt neglected.
I ‘ran away’ for three or four days sleeping around with some boys while my family frantically put out a search for me. I felt guilty when I found out they were looking, but that only made me feel more ashamed to go home because I couldn’t bear to look at them. I called my mom and told her I didn’t want to go home, even though I really wanted to but was just scared. She said its ok, and she’s just grateful I’m alive but she asked me to come home the next day. So the next day I went back home and was overcome when I saw my whole family including uncles and aunts weeping for me. I said I wouldn’t do it again and I took some time off from school to work out issues in my head, but I just felt more confused inside and I didn’t know why I felt so lost. I prayed every day. But I just felt suddenly angry at my parents for ‘overreacting’ to the situation and informing everyone in the extended family, and even my friends. Since then they became more sheltered of me I sometimes feel like I’m on parole. They get suspicious when I want to go out, even to meet a friend casually. So I started to get into the habit of sneaking out behind their backs again, and going out and sleeping around. I was addicted to it. I convinced myself thats what I wanted and that was an acceptable thing for me. But in part I think I was just rebelling against my parents, by showing them that even though they try to control me they don’t even know what I’m doing out of their sight. At the same time I didn’t want them to find out because I didn’t want to hurt them. If my mom asked if everything was fine, I would just say yes.
But then along the way something happened. I started to feel dirty and couldn’t even recognize myself. I stopped blaming my parents for my problems and saw it was a problem within myself. I was always an intelligent girl (not a genius like your children lol but maintaining a 3.5GPA). But because of my social and emotional state of mind, my grades started falling. I felt so confused and lost, but I know I have to change. I tried to pray again. The thing is, despite everything, I have never stopped believing in God. My faith in him never faltered. In fact I started to feel like the life I was leading was a sort of punishment from him.
I turned my back on that life I led, and went to my parents. I reflect on how they took care of me and cried when I was gone. And my mom who forgave me over and over for all the things I did to hurt her. She even forgave me when she found out I was sleeping with a boy, even though I could see her heart break.
I’m sorry but this is the state of today’s children. I know a lot of peers who lead such lives as well. We’re all just confused, and whatever rebellion we use as an excuse for our actions, in the end that disguise will fall away and what will be left is a scared, confused girl/boy trying to find their self and the answer to their life and their problems. We want to feel like we’re in control of our own lives, but at the same time we are still vulnerable and need a place to hide.
I haven’t quite figured myself out yet, even though I say I don’t want to do those things anymore. I just need to know that my family will be there if I need them, and the rest I will just have to find out on my own. I am slowly finding my way, inshaAllah.
I think Sufiah is also going through something like that, she’s just in the state of denial or something, convincing herself that she is happy in her current situation, but if she has at least an ounce of faith or belief in God, then I trust that eventually she will find her way. It doesn’t seem like she’s blaming anyone now, not even her father, maybe she just doesn’t feel ready to come back or is even a bit ashamed inside (especially now with all the media coverage), but just remind her that you’re there for her. Her siblings especially, her brother, maybe you were close to her. I agree with the people who say try to reach her, anyway, and just try to talk to her. Maybe if she’s not ready to connect with her mother it would be easier for her to talk to you. I know my brother helped a lot in my situation by just trying to reach out to me as a peer and communicating on a level I could relate to. But the thing is not to force it or else it might just make her resentful. It needs to be something she realizes on her own, but with people who love her providing a sort of safety-net, to catch her when she finally lands.
Another thing, is Sufiah the type to have many friends? Because it seems that she was a sort of loner apart from her siblings, and only seems to want to connect with men on a sexual level without any emotions. but I could dig up a bunch of theories of whats going on in her head and never really know. Maybe it would be easier to form a sort of intervention if she had more regular friends, girls her age.
I just thought I’d give my point of view seeing that Sufiyah is only 1-2 years difference than me.thanks and god bless all of you
June 6th, 2008 at 10:08 am
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June 23rd, 2008 at 4:17 pm
just a girl…
that a long story…thank god u’r still remember…to turn back to the right path…
i agree with u…
dear isk,
as i mention before this…isk, ika, abraham..aisha…i think y’all must do something …..try to catch soo-fi..but without break the law…i agree with just a girl…
find her and try to talk to her…
now the goverment of malaysia is giving the mandate to the melayu.uk…
that’s mean the people of malaysia still want soo-fi back….
may Allah bless y’all…
….still rememer soo-fi…with black baju kurung…10 year ago….
best regard,
Azmi
July 23rd, 2008 at 5:37 am
Saya memohon maaf kerana mengatakan yang bukan-bukan mengenai puan. Tapi selepas membaca blog ini, saya rasa mengganggap Puan adalah wanita yang sangat hebat. Sebab itulah Allah menguji Puan dengan hal yang sangat hebat. Maka saya memohon kepada Allah Yang Maha Hebat agar Puan bahagia di dunia dan akhirat. Sufiah tetap saya kasih. Wajahnya dari kecil hingga dewasa saling tak tumpah seperti anak jiran saya yang tinggi budi pekertinya. Semoga Allah kembalikannya kepada Puan setelah dia bertaubat. Dan terimalah dia nanti sebagai hadiah yang sangat mulia.